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I communicate with my parents ...

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Daily or more often
  6594 votes / 14%
At least once a week, but not daily
  18252 votes / 41%
At least once a month, but not weekly
  11265 votes / 25%
At least once a season, but not monthly
  3407 votes / 7%
At least once a year, but not every season
  1156 votes / 2%
Only when they show up to the seance.
  3441 votes / 7%
44115 total votes.
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  • Don't complain about lack of options. You've got to pick a few when you do multiple choice. Those are the breaks.
  • Feel free to suggest poll ideas if you're feeling creative. I'd strongly suggest reading the past polls first.
  • This whole thing is wildly inaccurate. Rounding errors, ballot stuffers, dynamic IPs, firewalls. If you're using these numbers to do anything important, you're insane.
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I communicate with my parents ...

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  • by Anonymous Coward
    "Too often"
    • Re: (Score:3, Insightful)

      by Anonymous Coward

      Or for those of us who chose the last option, "Not often enough".

      • by tomhudson (43916)

        Or for those of us who chose the last option, "Not often enough".

        [_] They're dead, you insensitive clod!
        ... or the European version ...
        [_] They're dead, you ignorant Claude!

    • by Anonymous Coward on Saturday April 02, 2011 @09:50PM (#35697030)
      At mealtimes when I leave the basement.
      • ... parents leave your basement!

  • by Anonymous Coward on Saturday April 02, 2011 @09:48PM (#35697022)

    Only when they knock on the basement door.

  • Does.. (Score:2, Funny)

    by Anonymous Coward

    yelling from the basement that you ran out of Mountain Dew count as "communicate"?

  • I call my mom on christmas and her birthday. She calls me over for dinner a bit more often.

    We both understand that no news is good news.

    • by jamesh (87723)

      I try and keep in touch a bit more often than that... it means that things like getting ordained as a priest come as less of a surprise :)

      (my mum is the one who's the priest btw)

  • Missing Option: (Score:5, Insightful)

    by esten (1024885) on Saturday April 02, 2011 @10:50PM (#35697300)
    When they need tech support.
  • by bughunter (10093) <<ten.knilhtrae> <ta> <retnuhgub>> on Saturday April 02, 2011 @11:02PM (#35697354) Journal

    ... to tell them: no, you are not going to win a free ipod from Bill Gates by forwarding that to me and 30 others; no, there will be no donations made to the girl born with no face either; no, you are not being tracked by the FBI or contacted by a Nigerian Prince; no, you are not going to be hunted down and killed because Dad flashed his high beams; no, the boy in England collecting business cards is a grown man now; no, Robin Williams did NOT write that; and no, there are no rules about eating pizza before kissing.

    I've given up asking my Mom to stop forwarding chain letters to me. But at least once a week I have to send her a link to Snopes. By now, I'm positive she never reads them.

    Glub forbid she actually go to Snopes before forwarding crap or telling me about the latest revelation or opportunity she discovered in her inbox.

    At least she knows not to give out her SSN or Visa information to anyone.

    (I hope.)

    • by Ronin441 (89631)

      The cruel-to-be-kind solution is: when you send a debunking link, don't hit "reply"; hit "reply to all".

    • ... to tell them: no, you are not going to win a free ipod from Bill Gates by forwarding that to me and 30 others; no, there will be no donations made to the girl born with no face either; no, you are not being tracked by the FBI or contacted by a Nigerian Prince; no, you are not going to be hunted down and killed because Dad flashed his high beams; no, the boy in England collecting business cards is a grown man now; no, Robin Williams did NOT write that; and no, there are no rules about eating pizza before kissing.

      I've given up asking my Mom to stop forwarding chain letters to me. But at least once a week I have to send her a link to Snopes. By now, I'm positive she never reads them.

      Glub forbid she actually go to Snopes before forwarding crap or telling me about the latest revelation or opportunity she discovered in her inbox.

      At least she knows not to give out her SSN or Visa information to anyone.

      (I hope.)

      Obligatory XKCD [xkcd.com] comic

    • My mother keeps sending me pages from Snopes. Do you think that's a bad sign?

  • Friends (Score:3, Interesting)

    by spaceyhackerlady (462530) on Sunday April 03, 2011 @12:15AM (#35697642)

    My Dad died a few years ago, but Mom and I are close. We're good friends. We send email back and forth, and talk on the phone every Sunday morning.

    She's my mom; I'm her daughter. We have that mother-daughter relationship. In a way we always had it, even in the bad old days when I was still pretending to be a boy.

  • by DaveAtFraud (460127) on Sunday April 03, 2011 @01:12AM (#35697784) Homepage Journal

    I talk to my parents about once a week. We communicate on a much less frequent basis.

    Cheers,
    Dave

  • I avoid it (Score:5, Interesting)

    by BlueParrot (965239) on Sunday April 03, 2011 @01:40AM (#35697862)

    I used to get along with my parents, but after I let them know I'm transsexual they've spent most of the time telling me I'm wrong, suggesting I'm mentally ill and other reasons to stop me. I was even told I cannot be a girl because I was always good at physics. It has gotten so bad I just don't want to talk to them anymore.

    • Re: (Score:3, Insightful)

      by Anonymous Coward

      I'm not sure you're even gonna read this, but I noticed you've gotten a couple of negative responses above already, and I couldn't let that stand without adding at least one positive.

      Be yourself, and go your own way. If you are a woman, then you are a woman, and nobody has the right to not accept or respect that. You're not wrong, and you're not mentally ill, and if your parents don't understand that, then - sad as it may be - not talking to them anymore, at least for the time being, is a valid choice.

      Of co

    • by quenda (644621)

      Two transexual comments in such a short time (http://slashdot.org/comments.pl?sid=2066560&cid=35697642) seems a bit much for coincidence.
      Could the "communicate with parents" subject line have special resonance?

    • Re:I avoid it (Score:5, Insightful)

      by DERoss (1919496) on Sunday April 03, 2011 @11:29PM (#35704720)

      If you (BlueParrot) can't tell your parents about my situation, try to get another family member or family friend to tell them:

      My wife and I have two children, a son (44) and a daughter (39). Our daughter is gay and lives in Canada, where she married another woman, a very caring wife. We see her and her family -- including our granddaughter (2) -- about once a year. Our son is straight and lives about 30 minutes away, with his beautiful wife and their children (14 and 3). We see him about once a week.

      The fact that our daughter is gay is not a big deal when I consider our son's situation. Our son has metastasized lung cancer. He went through 20 radiation treatments to destroy a tumor on his hip. He went through gamma knife treatments three different times to destroy tumors on his brain. Surgery is not an option because both lungs are involved. (No, he never smoked; he is allergic to tobacco smoke.) At the moment, our son is living with his cancer because medication has it under control. He works full-time, plays softball, and enjoys his children. But we don't know how much longer that medication will remain effective. We don't know how much longer we will have our son.

      Your parents need to realize that your sexual identity or orientation is not a big deal at all.

      As for the poll question, I cannot communicate with my parents at all. My father died in 1971 in my mother's arms. My mother died last year, one day short of her 100th birthday. I do communicate with both my children several times a week.

    • by JanneM (7445)

      "I was even told I cannot be a girl because I was always good at physics."

      Now that has got to be the flimsiest, most desperate straw I've ever seen anybody grasp.

      Ignore them, let them be. If they use this kind of argument they probably know they're wrong, and all they need is enough time to accept that.

      Meanwhile, live your life as you want it to be, not as others expect it to.

    • I have a friend who's gay and still hasn't come out of the closet to his parents. He's well into his 20s now.

      Thing is when he was younger, he was always the ladies' man, and this is how his parents knew him as well (he even told us about how his dad secretly congratulated him when he lost his virginity with a girl) but when we'd talk girls with him we knew something wasn't quite right. He was always like "yeah so I fucked this girl *yawn*" and we were all like "DOOOOOOD SWEEET YOU DA MAN BRO!!!" and he was

    • That absolutist female/scientist thing is just misogynistic BS, but I can see how people would be put off by gender-identity issues even if isn't right for them to be in an ideal world.
      Myself, I'm definitely a normal straight male in this regard, but I'm not sure what my opinion on others in those kinds of situations is, though/because social liberals and social conservatives are giving two different impressions of how I _should_ think.

  • Skype (Score:4, Informative)

    by fph il quozientatore (971015) on Sunday April 03, 2011 @03:49AM (#35698084) Homepage
    It is only a psychological factor, but them learning to use Skype has much increased the frequency. They are not quick keyboard writers, and international phone calls cost a lot, so it wasn't easy to communicate before (I now live in another nation). Having a completely free (as in beer) way to call each other every now and then and say "hi" in person is great.
    Something similar has happened in the last few years with meeting in person and low cost flights. Living in a nation away from your beloved ones nowadays is much, much easier than it was 15 years ago.
  • by 93 Escort Wagon (326346) on Sunday April 03, 2011 @04:54AM (#35698216)

    Grandparents = Free child care!

    Okay, not in all situations... but really, it's a win-win. They got to see the kiddos for a few hours, and we didn't have to pay for a babysitter.

    (of course my daughter is older now - but grandma still runs her to school a couple times each quarter when we've been in a bind)

    • The flip side of this is that my parents point-blank told me they would not come visit me because I did not produce grandchildren for them.

      On the other hand, they seem to have no problem with calling me for tech support.

    • Dude... I understand your point, but I could never, ever aggree with you. First, I'll tell you I am married, and my wife and I decided to not have kids.

      A lot of our friends ask why and tell us that we won't have anyone to care for us when we get old. Which I find as absurd as your idea...

      Why? Because no one has to take care of his/her parents when they get old. Let's say I wanted to move to a different country and never look back? Why would I have to come back and take care of my parents? Why in hell my kid

    • Yes, we spent a lot of time with Grandma and Grandpa, especially when we were younger. Good times. Living nearby definitely helps

  • I can't find a single "Your mom" joke here.
  • There's no option for 'never'. They aren't dead, so not at a seance, and not even once a year. They have nothing in common with me anymore other than biology, and say things that are inappropriate, and hurt the rest of my family, so no, I don't talk to them ever.

  • ..you go through cycles, like most other things in life. I actually have very decent parents (far better than a good share of my friends), and I grew up talking to them (really talking) about most things.

    Then I went away to college. And, entered that who process of trying to define myself as an adult (which, is a completely different thing than the "who am i" of teenagerhood). I stopped talking to my parents for the better part of a decade. As in, I spoke to them about once a month, but didn't really ta

  • Sigh, I hate to say it, but if my Mom had e-mail, Facebook, or even a computer it would help things a lot.

    I'm one of those people who finds that telephoning is the last thing that I think to do.
    • My mom joined Facebook so she could keep track of what I am doing. We still talk on the phone weekly, but she'll often just email me if she has a question.
  • ;) Gotta see how much it deviates!
  • I want mom to bring us down some meatloaf.
  • I have not spoken to my asshole father for almost 25 years. I hope my good luck continues until I crash his funeral to inject a little truth into the festivities.
    My parents are divorced.
    I speak to my mother at least once a month. We would talk more often, but time zones get in the way.
  • Harry Chapin's song is still as relevant today as it was when it was first written.
    It's all about priorities. Do we put our parents first, then we'll communicate more often. When I got married, got a career, got kids, my priorities shifted to my own family, career, children. That isn't saying that my folks aren't more important than my career.
    My parents are over 1000 miles away. We email and play silly games together on Pogo and see each other once a year. They have their life and I have mine, we are cool
  • it's easy to interact with them all the time when you still live at home (didn't feel the need to move out of the area for college, and haven't run across an out-of-town job yet)
    That being said, neither super-chummy nor super-distant.

Our business in life is not to succeed but to continue to fail in high spirits. -- Robert Louis Stevenson

 



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