Disconnecting Completely While On Vacation? 155
vonsneerderhooten asks: "This summer, I took a week-long vacation, left my cell phone at home and enjoyed the liberation of being completely disconnected from the (working) world. Recently, I came upon an article stating that many people don't take vacations longer than a long weekend. Worse still, a majority are worrying about work, calling the office and checking e-mail. How far removed are you when on vacation? To what lengths will you go to make yourself (un)available?"
Weekends aren't vacations. (Score:3, Insightful)
I take trips all the time, at least 2-3 trips a month. I always take my cell and PDA with me, but I usually leave the web behind. If I am taking a short trip, it is non-web business related, and I write off as much as legally possible. But if I start jumping online, that business trip becomes inefficient for me, and I don't get my work done, so even with a write-off it is still a financial loss.
I can not imagine NOT taking 2-3 weeks off each quarter for a real vacation. What prevents people from doing that? I hear it from friends who are overworked (usually because they are over-indebted): they can't leave because they'll miss something important at work. I never heard of this before because I always make sure that my future replacement in my position is trained for handling any emergencies when I am gone. I guess too many people are too protective of their position -- this usually means they see the future as a dead end or they see their abilities as plateaud. In this case, not taking a vacation really means they are just trying to hold ground.
I can't think of a single project that my expertise is needed on for the entire project, or even 50% of it. If you are good at handling emergencies, people will pay you just to be around holding their hand during non-emergencies. This is the opposite of expendable, and it also opens up your schedule for vacations -- real ones.
If your life doesn't allow for it, what are you doing even bothering to live? What is so important that a vacation would create a risk/reward ratio that is out of whack? For many, I think you have to look at lifestyle -- is your house so big that being out of work for one year will hurt you? Sell it. Are your monthly expenses so big that you can't pay them for 24 months with zero income? Sell things and learn to cut expenses. Is your budget so tight that when you do have time to take off, you have to pay for the trip on credit cards and it'll take 3-10 years of future income to cover your trip? start prioritizing what is important.
If I don't get 2-3 weeks of downtime each quarter, I am not efficient. Also, being away from work lets my customers know how much they need me when there ARE problems. The risk/reward ratio is very small -- little risk, and a huge reward from both sides: I'm personally rewarded by downtime, and I'm also rewarded if an emergency happens that I would be best at solving.
Life is way too short to focus only on working and buying a bigger house and a bigger car and a bigger TV or video game system. Even just 3 weeks a year of downtime is barely over 6% of the year -- a very meager idea of vacationing. Then again, I think many people give 10% to God, 30% to their employer, 4% to family, 6% to themselves and 50% to the State. I guess there's the prime problem.
Re:Weekends aren't vacations. (Score:5, Insightful)
I think what usually prevents people from doing that is that most people do not receive 50 vacation days per year, which is what would approximately be required to take four 2-3 week vacations every year. Most people don't even get half that number of days, especially not until they either a) reach the upper echelons, or b) work at the same company for years/decades.
Lucky you!
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I'm sure you're right, which is why I said even just 2-3 weeks a year is a start, but most don't even take that (or use it in double-day short
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They choose to accept 2 weeks per year holiday.
They choose to work in an environment which will not allow their absence.
They choose to consume to such an extent they are required to work the amount they work.
They choose to purchase these things on credit so they are indebted to a third party.
I'll be the first to say that the capitalist system is virtually designed to create this situation but it is by no means the on
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I'll agree with you about over-consumption and overuse of credit, but that's not what's being discussed. As for your fi
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Even better, many of my assignments involve going to far flung places where my cell phone won't even work and WiFi hotspots have never been heard of. Even when I'm working I'm half on vacation. The downside is that there is a very real danger of being kidnapped and se
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I'm not a contractor and I'm not all that high paid (I've swapped raises for more time off 60% of the time for the last 10 years)
I made choices, just like every else does. Only difference is I chose not to be part of the consumer culture and I chose to be a big part of my kid's life.
Nothing special, nothing sinister, nothing unattainable.
The real problem is not very many people even try. Honestly that's all I did... I asked.
Yes I do live in a nice w
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Re:Weekends aren't vacations. (Score:5, Insightful)
Is this the fabled 2 year buffer in the bank account? I don't know any one person who doesn't have to work the arse off to make enough money to live. I agree that some people spend more money than needed on non essential items, but competition in the market is so great that even cutting those out (internet/tv/phone) makes little difference. If I got rid of non-essentials, I would cut my (admittedly higher than average) income by little more than £100/m That would take me approx 18 years to make that two year buffer.
There are some eye opening statistics here http://www.poverty.org.uk/summary/key_facts.htm [poverty.org.uk]
Unless you earn the top brass money, you have to live as the cash flows in.
Back on topic... The above is related. People put so much emphasis on work because it is their lifeline to living. If you can afford to let your work ethic slip, then you either don't care about income, or are too rich to worry. When I go away I have to at least check my phone messages once a day, even with the trained monkey in my place things can still go wrong. It's a tragic fact of society that things need to be fixed yesterday, unfortunately this seeps into holiday time.
My 2p
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I live in the US in what most would consider "substandard" to what the average Joe has. I sold my huge house and bought a few used (and fully depreciated) mobile homes (paid off). I sold my huge new cars and bought nice solid used ones (paid off). I downsized my utilities (more efficient windows and roof means lower energy bills, intelligent lighting m
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Really? [duke.edu] Are you sure? [guardian.co.uk]
I'll admit that I haven't conducted a thorough survey, but a quick google for "poverty statistics uk us" would suggest otherwise...
Re:Weekends aren't vacations. (Score:5, Interesting)
Oldest is 1987 with an energy efficiency rating 100% better than a typical newer tract home. Newest is around 1993 or 1992 (can't recall). Some I paid ZERO for (walk-aways -- people had to move and I offered to get them out of the lot lease).
The key here is the definition of living. If you like being around your home and plan on retiring in it (not ON its future value), buy a "house." I personally like the freedom of changing if I need to, or if business/life warrants it. I also do not appreciate housing prices going up over time -- it is a game of inflation, not growing value.
Being "future-focused" shouldn't have to mean stocking up on gold, food and ammo and waiting for civilization to collapse.
Why do people sometimes think that is how I live? For me, future focused means trying to manage my time today so I have more time tomorrow to do what I want. I look at an efficient time preference as the #1 sign of wealth. I know that in my 20s, I could party it up. In my 30s, the body starts to slow down. Hit 40s, and death starts knocking (and even occurs for some). The 50s is when the body really starts giving out, and when you lose the efficiency in the market (I do believe that 30 year olds are often worth more to a market than 50 year olds because of adaptability and recent experience over lifetime of stuck-in-the-old-way experience). In the 60s, you're really feeling the heat (my mom hits 60 this year, my dad is 66, and they both are much slower than a decade ago). I have to balance my best work years with my best non-work years -- that means looking to the future as a focus for what I CAN do and what I'd WANT to do.
I'm sorry, but paying off a home for 37 years is not ownership, it is slavery to a smarter party. On a typical US$300,000 house with $50,000 down (most don't have that), you pay about US$19,000 in mortgage (6.5% fixed). US$16,200 of that is interest. Over the first ten years, you'll pay almost US$150,000 in interest alone. How is that ownership? Considering a 29% mortgage-to-gross ratio (which isn't standard, today), you'd have to pay US$65,500 to afford that loan, so in the first 10 years, over 2 years of your life is JUST in interest -- 20% of those work years. No thanks. That, to me, sounds fairly substandard in terms of freedom from stress and frustration.
It is no surprise to me that a lot of marriage problems start off with financial matters. It is no surprise to me that foreclosures are up 100-200% YOY in many regions. It is no surprise to me that many people lie about their equity-to-debt-to-income ratios. I'm not embarrassed about where I live, in fact I am proud that I can actually LIVE in terms of balancing work, recreation, family and faith. I'm pretty sure I give an equal amount to each, which to me gives me the stress-free life. The fact that there is savings on top of that, and some ability to wager some market risks (business ideas, etc), I think it is a super-standard way to live.
I'm not saying EVERYONE should live this way, I'm not saying it is the best way to live, but from the horror stories I hear from 90% of my friends and (younger) family, I can't understand why everyone wants to live the way they're living.
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Of the interest, you get ~$5000 back as a tax deduction (in the US). Your house appreciates (conservatively) by inflation, ~3% or $9000, in a non-speculative housing market. (However now the market in most regions is highly speculative, so that's subject to fluctuation, drastically increasing both the upside and downside.) And the remaining $3800 reduces you
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That's not true. I just saw an ad in the paper today for a mobile home in a residential park for £66k just several miles from here. Not the sort of place I'd want to live, granted, but there's always the option. They're not as common over here, but there's still a lot.
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Dude, you're on holiday - it's not your problem. If your colleagues can't cope without you, it's better that the management team realise that quickly and either train them up or replace them; otherwise, you'll be stuck wasting your precious holiday time working. No-one lies on their death bed, wishing they'd spent more time in the office.
It's a tragic fact of society that
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You fool! What's the point of "vacation days" if you can't take them without being fired?
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Re:Weekends aren't vacations. (Score:4, Insightful)
I take 6 weeks of vacation a year, and rarely check email on the weekends unless I'm on-call. When I'm out, other people take on some of my duties. When other people are out, I do the same.
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I feel sorry for you. As soon as I leave the office, I'm in vacation-mode. I'm especially saddened by the 24 hours preparing for return, why cut your vacation short? Get back into work mode on THEIR time, not yours.
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Living in Japan, for example. I've got 11 days/year.
Re:Weekends aren't vacations. (Score:4, Interesting)
Holy crap! What magical fun Universe do you live in where everyone gets 8-12 weeks of vacation per annum?
I live in Canada, and I've been at my job for 11+ years. I get four weeks per year. That's it. And, if I can't use it all in a fiscal year, I lose what I don't consume, so I don't have a chance of building up a bunch over a few years.
I'm sure the rest of us would dearly love to have 2-3 weeks per quarter to take a vacation, and the cash to go someplace and call it a real vacation. I would suggest that for the majority of people out there, that much vacation is a friggin' pipe dream!!
You are either really lucky, or really sheltered from the reality that the rest of us live in. I envy you!
Cheers
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I work in an underground mine as an Auto Electrician, fixing heavy mining equipment. Everything is trending towards electronic control - engine and transmission controls, payload systems, CANbus vehicle control, loader remote (wireless) control systems and fully-autonomous, no-one's-driving, loaders. This kind of work satisfies the geek in me nicely. Pay is double the Australian average, job is challenging and not a fixed routine and I enjoy what
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You either earn a LOT of money or you live very cheap. I don't know anyone who can afford to live for two years without an income.
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Not have 12 weeks off a year, never mind the money to go on all those holidays?
I find that by not going missing for 12 weeks a year I can have this thing called a 'job', which means I can live in a house rather than on the streets, and can eat fresh food rather than out of a dumpster.
Oh and by not spending
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Use voicemail to screen people (Score:5, Funny)
Hi, this is John. I'll be out of the office until <date>. If you need to get in touch with me before then, please reconsider your options.
But my all-time favorite was the one I recorded before leaving on a family trip. "Hi. I'm on vacation for three weeks until <date>. If you need to get hold of me, please dial Scotland and ask for John."
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Criminals love those kinds of messages. "Yay, guaranteed no one at home for so long - time for some burglary!"
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Yeah, come to my work and rob my cube. Take all my work away. I'll weep, I promise.
I don't ever change my home message. I still have the generic robot voice saying something generic, like: HELLO. WE ARE NOT AVAILABLE TO TAKE YOUR CALL RIGHT NOW. PLEASE LEAVE A MESSAGE AFTER THE BEEP. *BEEP*.
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Seriously, I sometimes put "I'm on vacation" messages on my home answering machine, and my friends have freaked out saying the same thing you did. But when was the last time you got a phone call from a burglar trolling for vacationing homeowners?
I'd fake my death (Score:4, Funny)
But it wouldn't.
What I do. (Score:2, Funny)
A few weeks at the Betty Ford Clinic is a great way to disconnect.
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Connected to non-work (Score:2)
I did take my mobile phone with me on those holidays, not for staying in contact with my work, but to stay in contact with those who stayed at home and because of some organisational work I do for my orchesta in my free time.
So do I completely disconnect - Yes and No
Yes - I do completely disconnect from work,
No - I do not completely disconnect from those I l
Just plan ahead (Score:2)
Granted, I haven't been on a long vacation in three years. Most of mine are three days here and there, but the same concepts apply. My last vacation to Mexico with some buddie
Incommunicado (Score:2)
Aside from a few co-workers I would consider friends, I'm pretty well unavailable when on vacation. I will shut off the cell phone and leave behind if I can. I might check my e-mail, but probably not. I won't spend more than 5-10 minutes a day looking at any of it, even if there's a critical project.
Chances are, the building could burn down, the company move, or whatever, and I wouldn't know it while I'm away. Even better, now that I telecommute, I may well not realise it when I get back.
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As for that "worrying about
Almost entirely (Score:2)
What part of "Vacation" don't you understand? (Score:2)
Read the book. It has
Get out and do something. (Score:1)
Posted by AC, but a good one nonetheless (Score:2, Funny)
Left the laptop at home
Brought my cell phone (Razr V3, quad band, all that good stuff)
Let the office know that if they wanted to reach me it'd be between the hours of 12pm (noon) and 6pm Manila time (12am midnight to 6am eastern), that I would be charging my recall overtime rate (hourly * 3), any time I was working would not be considered "time off" (saving vacation hours) and they would be paying my cell phone bill for that month ($3.98
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It doesn't take much (Score:4, Funny)
When I go there, I finish my work before I go, and leave it at work. As far as work is concerned, there is no phone there. I ain't telling. As well, when they ask how they can get a hold of me, I give them directions that will take them to the lake shore with instructions to bring a boat.
That does the job.
I would reply, but... (Score:2, Funny)
usually three weeks vacation in summer (Score:2)
all that because i don't like being overworked.
Impossible (Score:2)
My Honeymoon (Score:5, Interesting)
We honeymooned in Hawaii (Maui), and while there I stayed up on email via my Treo, corresponding with people back at the office. I took great care to make sure that I did this while my wife was asleep, or at other times when we weren't together. Still, when my boss discovered that I had been reviewing code for my team while on my honeymoon he immediately had my phone's data service disconnected. At first, I was rather frustrated at being cut off, but after about 24 hours I just left the damn phone in my suitcase. In the end, my vacation was better for it.
Disconnecting is definitely a tough thing to do for extremely connected people, but it's well worth it if you can manage the first 24 hours of information drought. I was more relaxed, less concerned with time; basically, everything that I should've been doing while on vacation in the first place.
Of course, I also had 2300 emails when I got back.
Regards,
Bryan Porter
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I'm glad there ended up being a happy ending. You may very well have one of the best bosses in the world.
Go thank him right now, go ahead, I'll wait.
Outside of some romantic surprise, you souldn't be hiding anything from your wife on your honeymoon, ANYTHING. Your honeymoon is one time in your life that should be 100% about you and your wife, if you were spending your time sneaking
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got in touch with your new wife for a weekend of fun...?
On your honeymoon? You need help, my friend
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The problem? A print queue on an old AIX box had locked up. We had a high priced consulting agency on call to fill in for me (I'm the alpha and the omega of the IT department), but they couldn't seem to do it. Took me 5 m
My current vacation. (Score:1)
I've spent atleast an hour of every day ive been here on the phone discussing business related matters with coworkers, clients, and associates.
This is
You are not on vacation. (Score:2, Insightful)
Are none of you system administrators? (Score:5, Insightful)
My peace of mind is dependent on 16 servers in a server room. If all of those are working, then it's my executive director's wireless connection I have to worry about. In fact, anyone at work with a laptop is bound to have a network "problem" once a week, usually having to do with switching between home, hotel, work, etc.
Some day, I'll find a reliable "number two" person, but until then, it's 24-7. Real vacations are a distant memory -- 20 years ago during college summers.
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I was an intern for the public sector not too long ago, and even though it wasn't particularly my job to babysit the servers, I felt more comfortable being able to check the backup jobs, make sure everything was alive, et cetera, after I left the office.
The only real cure for that is to have more than one sysadmin who could get stuff done and rotate out paranoia-time. Then they gave me a blackberry... The only times I wasn't in nazi-paranoia mode was when the battery died and on public
I'm glad your company isn't a provider of mine ... (Score:5, Insightful)
No? You mean that you would, in fact, be able to leave for a week and come back to find the building still occupied by employees, phones still ringing, sales still being made, etc.?
Face it: you're not THAT important. If you were hit by a bus, you'd be replaced. Business would continue without you. If they can replace you in that circumstance, they can figure out a way for you to have a vacation. The fact that they are not indicates you like never having a vacation (you're a control freak), or you don't like it and your "executive director" and his coworkers are abusive dicks for not allowing you to arrange vacation time.
Either way, your company is being very shortsighted, and cannot see that they are going to be sorry when you *do* stop working there (regarless of the circumstances of your departure). True, you're not irreplacable, but they're still going to be hurt by your not having an effective team under you.
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I guess the answer to "how do I succeed in life?" is "You don't, LOL!"
It doesn't work that way. You don't have to land big fish to survive. If you are starting a business completely solo (i.e., not even with a hand
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If you were hit by a bus today, the company would go on. You're completely replaceable. Take advantege of that.
Still not convicned? Let me put it in terms of enlightened self interest.
I check out completely (Score:1)
Not at work? Not reading work-related mail (Score:1)
Given the choice I'd like to have the option of reading mail, surfing the internet, and using a computer whilst on holiday, but I can live without it.
I guess there are two questions here:
The first I'd say "yes I can, but I don't want to". I find that with no net connection I do miss it, things like looking up actors on IMDB if I've been to the cinema, etc, so I would prefer to take a laptop away w
It can be therapeutic to check in (Score:2)
WTF? (Score:2, Funny)
LK
Try no TV or Internet (Score:4, Insightful)
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define completely? (Score:2)
I will say it was probably one of the better vacations I have had in a long time. The last time I did a vacation like that was when I graduated from college, and went on a diving trip. All I did on that vacation was wakeup, dive, eat, drink beer, and sleep. In that order ;-).
at random (Score:2)
Someday maybe I'll leave at an odd hour on a tuesday morning and leave a note from "the competitors" (whoever they may be at the time) stating that if they ever want to see their valuable R&D guy again to wire X amount of dollars into Y swiss bank account. Just maybe.
Incommunicado (Score:2)
Danger!! - Six Week Vacation (Score:2)
The more disconnected the better (Score:2)
I head for Algonquin (Score:2)
I usually drive back 40 over the speed limit.
It's not a vacation (Score:2)
stuck at work (Score:2)
However, in the past, and when I do have the day off (because fortunately I work 4 10 hour days each week) I most certainly do not think about work. Occasionally if I have a particular coding issue that I'm stumped on I'll work through that in my head in my downtime but for the most p
Scuba Diving and Spelunking (Score:2)
Are two great activities to take up when you are on vacation.
My boss doesn't want me taking my cell phone with me to 100 feet deptsh.
But seriously, work still has an expectation that I will be magically available in the event that something should go wrong. This can be considered a good thing in that I'm recognized as something they probably don't want to fire at the next right-sizing cycle. However, I do have a tendency of going places there no phone has gone before. In part, that's what I enjoy as a
I take a cell phone - for conveneince/emergency (Score:2)
I never touch a computer on vacation, no internet cafe's at least - occasionally the spouse wants to send someone like her mom an email from a PC in a hotel lobby or the old fa
One reason for not disconnecting. (Score:2)
Disconnecting (Score:2)
Tragic. Worse is the syndrome where vacations are totally stressful because you have to get so many things done before you leave, and will be indundated in fires when you get back. Gross mismanagement, in other words.
I provide emergency contact info when I travel, but it's always on a "this had better be important" basis. In 6 years they've used it once. Yes, it was important.
Vacations are supposed to be just that: vacations. I'm going to Costa Rica for a week in February to look at stars [tq-international.com], and won't ev
part-time (Score:2)
Part of the problem with taking long vacations (or vacations at all) is the way many employers classify their employees.
I work 50+ hour weeks with insane hours (5:30pm to between 2 and 5am with a certain number of mandatory weekends a month, though I have responsibilities that require me to be in the office every Friday, Saturday and Sunday). I don't get vacation days, or sick days, or health insurance. In fact, my company classifies me as a part-time (ha), freelance employee. The thing is, if I WERE sa
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Two Worlds (Score:2)
The first type are what I call the "John 'Maddog' Hall-ites", no offense meant to the big man. Whether it be by luck,
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I've heard working conditions are pretty bad in 3rd world shitholes.
I get 20 days per year, plus a week of personal time for appointments, short-term illness and such. I can carry 15 days over to the next year if I want to, but rarely do - when I take vacations I come back to work refreshed, ready to take on new problems, and to come back to old ones with new energy and insight. That's the point of vacations.
...laura
Split the difference (Score:2)
I should point out that while I say I "advocate" unplugging, I myself don't. If I'm laying in my hotel bed in the middle of the night checking my mail over the VPN, who does it hurt? How is it making my trip worse? I stop there though, I won't actual
Sick (Score:2)
I love my job and the people I work with.
I run from cell phone towers (Score:2)
But I knew a lot of guys who just took a week off, stayed around home, and left their cell phone on and even took calls. I'd never to that. I would also never call a person on vacation. Nobody is that important. Once you realize t
Balancing work and not-work (Score:2)
Well... (Score:2)
For phone, I actually don't mind staying in touch because I reque
It isn't just debt, it's also kids (Score:2)
A lot of the world's problems would be solved if people would simply stop having kids for awhile. Me, I live a childfree [childfree.net] lifestyle and couldn't be happier. The only regret I have about getting fixed [no-scalpelvasectomy.com] is that I didn't do it sooner.
No can do, colonel ! (Score:2)
Tons of once-acquintance, now very close friends who have been met over the internet, clients, colleagues, buddies, communities, relatives are in it.
even if you are thousands of miles away from each other it still creates a feeling of being together. there are times that you feel the need to actually close down all instant messengers in order to feel 'alone'. theres some connection with the people on your list who never message you, you never message them, but you s
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