NYT had an article last week about how stressful it is for autistic white collar professionals to constantly mask their perceived antisocial behaviors and fake being normal in the workplace.
This was said earnestly. Apparently it is a form of psychological trauma to refrain from interrupting your boss and forcing yourself to stop what you're doing to make eye contact.
I told the wife about this, and naturally her reaction was that I must have aspergers on account of I'm blunt anddon't always prioritize the emotional well-being of my interlocutors, thus I must be blind to it.
I told her
a) Asperger's doesn't exist in DSM 5 (was folded into the "autism spectrum disorder" everyone and their mother now has
b) It's never a good idea to bring your whole self to work. You bring your professional self, because your whole self may not refrain from the urge to tell your colleagues *exactly* what you think of their deeply-held subjective opinions on politics, religion, or lifestyle choices. And that would be bad for unit cohesion.
c) I'm not blind to other people's emotional states. Sometimes I just don't give a fuck. Especially when time's a tickin' and safe space calm down time with playdoh and stuffies is not on the agenda.