Comment Re:Manners, Good Form and Rationalization (Score 1) 1142
Also, where do you get the idea that "politeness" means being deceptively nicey-nice? If I'm so angry at you that I want to rudely tell you off, then I am instead going to do the polite thing of inviting you out to coffee, whereupon I would present you with my grievances and convey just how offended I am at them -- calmly, clearly, and with composure. I would not scream, I would not curse you, I would not call you names.
"Polite" does not mean "deceptive". Politeness means politeness. I think politeness and sincerity are two of the minor virtues that Whitaker exalts.