Comment Re:Is free speech the problem? (Score 1) 30
If I like to respond to every post I disagree with, why is that so offensive to mods that I get banned and feel suicidally depressed as a result, not because of the free expression of other posters, but because mods prevent me from responding as I see fit?
“If I like to respond to every post I disagree with”
You kind of answer your own question in the first clause.
What you’re describing isn’t “free expression.” It’s an asocial urge to jump into every disagreement, everywhere, all the time, and “respond as I see fit” with no real limit except your mood. Scale that up to dozens or hundreds of threads and from the moderator’s perspective it doesn’t look like participation, it looks like one guy trying to turn the entire site into his personal argument factory. Your attempt to fig leaf your asocial behavior with free speech arguments is a non-starter. Free speech != compulsory audience. You absolutely have the right to say what you think. But -- and this is why your free-expression argument fails -- the First Amendment doesn’t entitle you to a permanent microphone in an online forum, any more than it entitles you to barge into your neighbor’s living room because you overheard a comment through an open window and you feel compelled to argue with all their dinner guests “as you see fit.” You've articulated your own problem, very clearly, and it's why mods drop the ban hammer on you with what must be annoying regularity. From inside your own skull it feels like “I’m just speaking my mind.” From everyone else’s POV it’s “this idiot again, dragging the same fight into yet another thread.”
Mods don’t see your inner motives. What they see is your asocial behavior pattern: one user generating outsized friction across the site. When the pattern doesn’t change after nudges and warnings, the ban hammer comes out. That’s not them “preventing free expression.” That’s them protecting everyone else’s ability to participate without wading through your permanent counter-take on everything. Consequences aren’t persecution; you frame this as “mods prevent me from responding as I see fit,” as if that’s some outrageous injustice, but it's just mods doing their job, which is to tell you, in no uncertain terms, that “You can’t keep doing this here, in this way.” They aren't telling you you can never speak again, they are letting you know that you can’t keep using their bandwidth and their community as the arena for your asocial compulsion to reply to everything. You chose to treat “I want to respond to every post I disagree with” as a personal right that trumps everyone else’s time, attention, and enjoyment. This kind of asocial behavior is a red flag to any moderator. Mods chose to treat it as what it looks like: someone using “free speech” as a shield for asocial behavior. Their job is not to absorb your compulsions because you’ll threaten suicide if they don’t. Their job is to keep the place livable for everyone.
If your mental health is really that fragile, the answer isn’t for mods to let you keep arguing with every user on their forum. The answer is: step away, get help offline, and maybe treat “I feel driven to reply to everything” as a symptom of a personality defect, not a principle to defend. Rage-baiting is not a socially acceptable outlet for your compulsion. In the larger rage-bait discussion: platforms already act like Skinner boxes. They reward compulsive engagement — especially the kind that locks people into endless, angry back-and-forths. The more you give in to “I must respond to every post that annoys me,” the more you’re letting that machinery train you.
So in a bucket, why do mods ban you? Because from their POV, you aren't some tragic free-speech martyr. You're just a user with asocial traits that you should have left behind when you left kindergarten -- a lack of impulse control and a need for attention -- that is degrading the experience for everyone else. You’re not being punished for having opinions. You’re being punished for acting like a child.