In the military you generally learn two things. One, using tools and learning skills designed to kill people and destroy things.
For a small subset of the people, yes.. For the vast majority? No.. For every member of the military that has a job to "kill people" you'll have 3 or 4 in support roles. Example: The motor pool. Filled with mechanics whose primary job is to fix damaged / defective vehicles..
I was an Avionics Technician. I fixed the electronic systems on the jets. We had 30 to 40 pilots and somewhere around 100 technicians. The pilots (another very transferable skill) killed people. None of the 100 techs had that as a "primary duty". Jesus, even in combat zones, none of us techs even carried a weapon.. Well.. I had a rather nice knife, but that was more for utility than as a weapon of war.. I did kill a few camel spiders with it...
According to the very limited research I did, nearly 90% of the 5,000+ humans serving aboard a US Aircraft Carrier have a task/job/role that has nothing to do with killing people.
Those are not really skills you are going to need in general life and practicing such skills in a civilian setting is, shall we say, discouraged.
Absolutely false. Both the mechanics and the guys doing my job easily transitioned to civilian life. You can add the cooks, firefighters, MPs (military police), fabricators, electricians, HVAC guys, and a million other specialties to those lists.
Two, you learn to unquestioningly obey orders.
Absolute and complete bullshit. We had nearly a full week of instruction on the Constitution and what constitutes a legal versus an illegal order. We were expected to know the difference and we were tested on it. It was made very clear to us that, should we follow an illegal order, we could (and probably would) be prosecuted for it (alongside the idiot that issued said order). Likewise, failing to follow a legal order also carried some rather severe penalties. That's one of the reasons why we were educated on which was which. Yes, the military expects you to follow legal orders. Of course. The military doesn't function correctly when everyone just does whatever the fuck they want when they want. Likewise, following illegal orders also can cause a tremendous amount of problems.
Everything you've said makes me think you've never served.. and yet there you are passing out BS and false information..