We have to face the plain and simple truth: There is public and there is private.
Point in case: I recently (again) met a woman who is into Gangbang and porn ( you'd be surprised how many women are). She's smart, independant, witty, well-mannered, can talk for hours about "God and the World" as we say in Germany. She's my age and looks gorgeous. And she fucks like a pornstar (no surprise here) and also loves to have a few guys on her all at once and no problem with indulging in that. This is the type of woman I have the deepest respect and admiration for. I even asked her if she has a friend from her camp, because I'm currently single and would like to have a sweetheart of her format (she's married
Yet there is no doubt that people like her (and me) have to be careful about being to outspoken and unphased when talking about our sexlives. Were I am comfortable and have crossed a few inner borders on my perspective on sex, I have to be aware that most people around me haven't and are still squarely in the "average frustrated" camp - men and women alike. I told her that I have the deepest respect and admiration for women "who know how to spread their legs, enjoy herself and f*ck the living daylights out of a good man
I can totally understand if a project lead wants to keep his project clean of these errrm " unconventional" things. We all live in a culture and have to have some groundrules we follow. Keeping an unusual sexlife to yourself or only with people whom it concerns is a huge part of that.
My 2 eurocents.