so the choice is be
1. in a wonderful understanding marriage, or
2. "sorry, to hell with you"
your message seems to be: if you aren't married, or in a bad marriage, or in any way deviate from the 1950s leave it to beaver perfect cookie cutter utopia of domestic life, well then go fuck yourself (figuratively, not literally). that seems to be the conservative message
do you ever stop to consider people and their conditions in life that aren't in the same glorious spot as you?
is this the wonderful mythical "compassionate conservatism" i hear about always that says "you get to have sex if your life is a fairy tale, otherwise, you get to suffer, period, end of story"
why don't you instead open your mind slightly, consider people that might not have it as good as you, and allow them what they need to keep going in life?
instead of, in intolerance as you currently do, defining your oh-so-perfect life, and then declaring anyone outside it to be unclean and unworthy. that's religious conservatism in action