Comment Easy for you to say - pre-information-age-old-man (Score 2) 206
...is not found in avoiding the problem.
You are here to educate these kids. This is your role. Granted, these issues should have been addressed long before COLLEGE but the idea of entering supposed 'adulthood' without the mental armor to deal with things like "being rated for your performance" is...asinine.
STOP WRAPPING PEOPLE IN BUBBLE WRAP. You are not doing them favors, you are just kicking their mental health issues down the road (while exacerbating them, most likely) for someone else to deal with.
Dude, if you're commenting on this site, you're my age or older. When you were a freshman, the information age was either just starting or not a thing. When I entered college, we were using Netscape still. Websites were nearly useless. Commentators were downplaying the internet saying it's just for Star Trek debates and low-res porn....no one would do real work, like banking, on it. You and I didn't deal with the impact of social media. Life was a lot simpler when we were freshman. Remember boredom? I fucking do. I was REALLY FUCKING BUSY as a college student working 2 student jobs and having a challenging major. Even then, lots of hours of downtime and boredom...commuting on the subway, hanging out in the dorms and later my apt. LOTS of hours sitting in some kid's dorm bored entertaining each other. We'd play old games we were sick of and make the best of it. We'd watch movies we had seen before because it's what he had in his room. We'd watch lame old movies because we watched all the good ones at our university's campus video rental place. Being bored is extinct today....replaced by a feeling you're not doing enough or missing something...no sense of downtime....that fucking phone in your pocket, a constant connection to every self-doubt you have, everything in life more fun than what you need to do, every bit of information to make you realize how daunting your path to success is.
I focused on studying and getting laid and my peers from wealthier families got to sit around the dorms bored getting high and doing enough to pass. No one knew shit. It took fucking effort to be informed. You'd have to read the newspaper and watch the nightly news and no one in college had the time for that shit. We learned things via word of mouth. I couldn't compare myself to those in my high school class. I had no clue who was dating or thriving.
Kids today? They're FLOODED with more information than human brains can handle. They can see boastful exaggerated posts of their former friends from home living their best lives. Everyone is more successful than you. Everyone has a better relationship than you. Everyone went on a cooler vacation than you. Oh, there's an article about some kid 2 years older than you that now has a multi-million dollar startup that may reach a billion dollar valuation...oh yeah, and he grew up somewhere in your state...isn't that cool????
Success occurs when opportunity meets preparation....meaning your success in life is a mixture of skill and luck and really much much more luck than skill. I know mine was. I am very skilled....but so are a fuckton of people who achieved less than me....and many less skilled people achieved a lot more. I was at the right place at the right time and I used my skill not to fuck things up....those far more successful?...most were in a better place at the right time. The point?...you're not successful in life because of your mental fortitude. If you were their age, you could not replicate your success perfectly. You'd have to be MUCH MUCH MUCH better and more skilled at life to replicate your success today. I know I would. I know there are 100x more interesting distractions today than before. I know things are more confusing, the standards are higher, the amount of information to process is impossible. When I was 18/19?....you could be smart by not being a dumbass...shit was easy. Our programming projects were tiny in scope compared to what is expected of kids today. We could have a 100line C program that doesn't do much of anything be a successful thesis in the 90s. Kids today need to build full stack apps in at least 3 different languages and know a FUCKTON more stuff than anyone who graduated in the 90s/00s. I could easily master the technology I was expected to know on graduating. it was usually a single language. NO ONE can master a full stack today. Anyone who says they do, just don't realize how little the know about databases...which aren't even just RDBMS any more, but a dozen types.
Fuck off with the kids are soft bullshit. I heard it all my life about me and we all listened to it about millennials and gen z...it's a tale as old as time and it's bullshit every time. I feel sorry for today's kids because A LOT MORE is expected of them than what was expected of Gen X people like me to make it into the middle class and have a basic standard of living. Life got a lot harder and more complex. You forget how simple things were for us.
If the experts think this may help, I am all for it. However, I do sympathize with kids today....shitting on the youth and pretending they're soft and inferior to you won't change the fact that your relevance diminishes each year, like it does for every other aging person. It won't change the fact that they have many more years on this planet than you and I do at this point.