For a civilized country (so excluding Russia who doesn't care about anyone's life), you probably want your adversary to have accuracy. If they're attacking your naval base in San Diego, you want it going near the naval base, not wandering into the civilian territory and bombing schools. Soldiers know how to handle attacks and typically have protocols for dealing with damages, putting out fires, evacuating the injured, etc. Daycares probably don't.
Honestly, I am more frightened of this than nuclear war. Once a power launches nukes, things escalate and escalate hard. Idiots can't handle nukes. No shitty nation like Russia or Iran will arm allied revolutionaries with nukes.
Cheap drones and missiles? They can do a lot of damage, are difficult to protect from....and yeah, these are cheap enough to arm other nations with....cheap enough to smuggle, etc.
Nations keep careful stock of their hypersonic missiles. Private companies?....not so confident they won't get a few stolen or sell to some nation who will use them to arm terrorists.
All my life, everyone has complained about the elite militaries. You think Israel and Russia and the USA are dangerous? Wait until you see the houthies waging warfare with the same gear? Soon every clueless hippie complaining about war will be longing for the day when warfare was confined to more responsible parties. As liberal as I am, recent events have made me much more aware...you can complain about the USA "military industrial complex", CIA, etc.... all you like and your complaints may even make sense in a vacuum. But now that under Trump, the USA is stepping back, you'll appreciate just how responsible we were...as other nations fill the role and you see...yeah...we did shitty things....but NOTHING compared to Russia, Iran, N Korea....hell, I'll wager that even as France and Britain ascend, they'll make us look quite good. To me complaining about the USA's military is like hearing someone complain about their iPhone when they've never used any other phone platform. If you're complaining about how Samsung does something better?...OK, legit complaint. If you're complaining that phones without cases break when you drop them on concrete from 5'?...well, you're a moron...unless an iPhone competitor somehow solves that problem...it's not an iPhone problem, it's a phone problem. Similarly...the USA did shitty things?...yeah....but nothing compared to any superpower in recorded history. Compared to our rivals, I think the USA looks quite saintly, especially our modern ones (the Soviet Union and Russia)