IT and Divorce? 943
frank_tudor asks: "I am graduate student and work as a web developer. I am also getting a divorce and I have a son caught in the middle.
I believe my profession had a part in it. For my graduate thesis I am writing a paper about Dads who work in the computer industry, divorce and custody. I think our industry causes a high rate of divorce but I need some help from the Slashdot community.
My questions are: How many of you computer Dads have also gone through divorce and have retained either half or full custody of your children? Do you think your job had something to do with it? What were some of your hardest challenges and are your kids happy?"
I'm about to start the road to divorce (Score:5, Funny)
I Can Relate to You (Score:5, Funny)
Yep, the only reason she left me is because I'm in the IT field. I make a lot more cash on average & my job as software developer is one of the most highly sought after in the nation. Computers are becoming more and more prolific in everyday life so I maintain a solid job. But from what I've told you, it's pretty obvious that being in the IT field is what separated me and my wife. Looking back, I miss the times she brought me a beer as I was stacking sunders.
Sorry to make light of your situation, Frank, but honestly I think that a lot of IT people know how easy it is to find pr0n online. I've heard this is a growing concern [divorcewizards.com]. Honestly, the perks of an IT job would probably be desirable for the wife, I think it's just the fact that the person is more clued in to how to use computers for pleasure and addiction. IT filed offers more money and doesn't ravage your body (at least not like construction or farm work does). Whether it be Warcraft or pr0n, these addictions pay a toll on a happy marriage. If you find a correlation, it's probably in those topics, not just IT.
About the questions with kids, I don't have any but I would think that it would be very simple to get them involved with a computer project and spend plenty of weekend time with them. Then again, that's just what I would dream of happening
IT causes divorce (Score:5, Funny)
Huh? (Score:5, Funny)
Re:I'm about to start the road to divorce (Score:5, Funny)
A more likely reason for divorce (Score:2, Funny)
yes, but.. (Score:5, Funny)
His job was also very lazy, never did anything around the house. And it would never listen! If you're going to be in a relationship with a man, women, and a job, everyone needs respect each other and their personal space. But job just didn't know when to back off either... it would keep pressing and pressing... jesus, I'm in the bathroom. Just leave me alone!
Re:Primary Cause (Score:4, Funny)
Re:yes, but.. (Score:4, Funny)
IT Types have the wrong approach (Score:4, Funny)
Unfortunately, the woman needs to have the value of love set every time she boots in the morning, and occasionally during the day also.
Playing Call of Duty 8 hours a night for a month straight doesn't help either.
Informative (Score:3, Funny)
Re:Oh please (Score:5, Funny)
I'm sure your wife's genes would agree. But as for your wife, well, you were probably right to post this anonymously.
Re:Oh grow up. (Score:5, Funny)
If your income is so important that you sacrifice your relationship, you don't deserve neither.
I work in IT, I have been doing it for 10 years now. TEN FUCKING YEARS.
Christ almighty I hope you're not a coder...
Re:Your career doesn't define your divorce. (Score:3, Funny)
I think it summarizes down to this: incompatibility between system components, which sort of makes marriage a lot like a PC running Windows: unstable, prone to crashes and violations, demanding of frequent repair and outright reloads.
The obvious solution, that I'm surprised that no other ./'er has suggested, is to replace your Microsoft marriage with either OS/X or Linux. As a divorced IT professional with full custody of the kids, I fully plan to switch to Linux-based relationship OS before considering any future long-term relationship. :P
Re:Oh please (Score:3, Funny)
And whoever said it otherwise - the wife always comes first. Kids are perfect 2nd - and they will want to be lower then the dog by the time they're teenagers.
Re:A few points (Score:5, Funny)
Priests. Probably prostitutes too. But I repeat myself.
Re:my divorce- (Score:1, Funny)
You shouldn't have been married to kids in the first place.
Re:Huh? (Score:5, Funny)
Re:You need to work it out... (Score:5, Funny)
But "the spice" must flow! The entire galactic economy could collapse, nevermind a single marriage!
Re:Oh please (Score:1, Funny)
So, it's Society's fault that we point the finger at someone else?
Re:Your career doesn't define your divorce. (Score:3, Funny)
I agree. An Open Marriage would be great. Granted, it's a lot different than a Closed Marriage, and many people will have some difficulty adapting.
Re:Huh? (Score:3, Funny)
Re:Oh please (Score:0, Funny)
Sincerely,
your son
Re:Oh please (Score:5, Funny)
Husband: what is the Bugzilla number? Did you assign it to me?
Re:There is a moral to this tale... (Score:3, Funny)
Re:Oh please (Score:5, Funny)
Yeah, and the other half end in death. Pretty grim institution.
Re:There is a moral to this tale... (Score:5, Funny)
Bitches ain't shit but hoes and tricks?
Just goes to show (Score:4, Funny)
Never marry a stripper.
Re:Just goes to show (Score:2, Funny)
Re:Flip (Score:5, Funny)
Re:Oh please (Score:2, Funny)
NOTABUG WONTFIX
CLOSED
Re:Oh please (Score:1, Funny)
Re:Oh please (Score:2, Funny)
Re:And i hate this - (Score:3, Funny)
What would that do? it's not like men are stupid enough to sit on the john without looking to see that the seat is down..
I mean, really, do you walk backwards, ass first into the bathroom and try to find the toliet blindfolded or something?
Is it really that difficult to LOOK where you are going to sit, before sitting down?
I don't think you should be complaining to your man about "omg you left the seat up", but be looking in the mirror every day and say to yourself "I am not a retard, God gave me eyes and I am not blind"
btw,
But it's hardly more difficult than pointing it upwards and arcing your stream in an attempt to keep your urethra open.
Funniest thing ever written, if your guy does this, kick him in the balls.
Real men lean over the toliet and point it down.