Comment Some people are hopeless, yes (Score 3, Insightful) 68
I'm doing fine now, but grew up in a poor family. We were constantly judged for it. I recall hearing from a classmate that we couldn't be friends because his parents told him I would steal from him.
And yes, if you're seen having anything even vaguely inessential or middle-class coded, you're judged for that, too. Taking your kids to get ice cream once in a while demonstrates how wasteful you are. Or my absolute favorite was someone trying to shame me for wearing nice clothes one day. I was on my way to a job interview. So which is it, am I too stupid and lazy to lift myself up by my bootstraps, or am I to only get work at places that will hire someone in rags?
All of which probably helps explain why I can be extremely contemptuous about this sort of thing. People are complex, and the finances of many people at the edge of poverty are largely based on interpersonal relations. Without a fair amount of personal detail you simply won't have a lot of the time, you really just don't know how responsible they're being.