Obviously, cleaning up the Bush mess is going to be one heck of a job. But let's forget the work side of the presidency for a moment and talk about Barack Obama as husband, father, and regular guy, because no matter how hard the Republicans try to portray Obama as an out-of-touch elitist, he is more in touch with ordinary Americans than any Bush has been for generations. Let's start with the mother in law thing.
You may or may not have heard that Barack Obama's mother in law has moved into the White House. To me, this is more momentous than having the first black president. I mean, president or no president, I expect Marian Robinson to keep him from getting too swell-headed. She was a secretary for many years, and her late husband, Fraser, had a blue-collar job with the city of Chicago. They lived non-prosperously on the city's south side and raised not only Michelle but also her brother Craig Robinson, who Marian can repeatedly remind Barack is a better basketball player and coach than he'll ever be.
I have a vision of "First Granny" Marian charging into a meeting room at 9 p.m. and telling Barack, "I don't care if you're in the middle of negotiations that will bring peace to the Middle East. It's time for you to read your daughters a bedtime story and tuck them in."
And Michelle may be First Lady and a high-powered lawyer with ivy league degrees, but I have never met an adult who wasn't viewed, at least some of the time, as a baby by his or her mother. If we were flies on the wall in the White House family quarters, I'll bet we'd hear, more than once, "Baby, there is no way you're going to wear that dress in public. You look like you're going to bounce out of it any second."
Plus, every time Barack complains about the rigors of the job, First Granny will be there to remind him not only that she had to show up at work at a crappy job even when it was snowing, without any servants to help, but that her ancestors were slaves, and that Barack has relatives in Kenya who live in dirt-floored huts, so he should be grateful for what he has, even on days when the presidency seems overwhelming.
Cut off from the people
Barack Obama was apparently well-known and well-liked in Chicago. He hung out at the local barber shop, trading gossip and jokes while he waited for his turn in the chair. He and Michelle ate out often, not necessarily at the fanciest places in town but at family-priced, mid-scale restaurants where they were well-known (and good-tipping) regulars. Then there's the Blackberry. Yes, Barack is going to keep it. Good. He's always had a lot of friends and, president or no, is determined to stay in touch with them.
The Ben's Chili Bowl excursion Barack made with D.C. mayor Adrian Fenty soon after he arrived in the city was perfect. Yeah, Ben's is a necessary stop for black celebs in D.C. ever since Bill Cosby (not a celeb at the time) courted his future wife there. But Ben's is not fancy, and far more ordinary people than celebrities sit at the tables and counter, and customers are not necessarily black. As a limo driver, I sat and ate at Ben's more than once while waiting on charter parties who were at the nearby 9:30 Club and other U Street night spots. I met all kinds of people there, from cops to Howard University professors. Ben's is the kind of place that encourages conversation and discussion. And this video shows that, aside from secret service all over the place and lots of cameras and hand-shaking, Barack is right at home in a Ben's-type place, right down to the inevitable sports banter. And that he picked up the check. And posed for a snapshot with some of the cops guarding the front of the place, and gave Mayor Fenty a nice little hug before he left.
It's going to be hard for Barack and Michelle to slip out for the evening on a whim, even if they have First Granny and lots of staff to watch he kids. Secret service... lots of attention.... not exactly conducive to going out dancing or for a romantic dinner or meeting a few friends for a drink somewhere. And taking the kids to the park or the zoo is going to be a motorcade event that will tie up traffic, not a simple family thing, no matter how hard the Obamas try to stay normal and do normal things.
Bush and Clinton not only lived in the bubble of White House security, but seemed to like it because it set them apart from the peasants. Barack and Michelle seem totally comfortable with ordinary working people, as well they should since they have so many of them as friends and family.
This gives me more hope for the Obama presidency than political leanings or almost anything else. Barack's Blackberry dealings may now be limited, but I bet First Granny Marian will be on the phone plenty with relatives and old friends in Chicago, who will give her a streets-eye view of the country's economy that may be more accurate than all the economists' predictions Barack will be forced to wade through as part of his job.
I just hope Obama can stay comparatively normal in the White House, not only for our sake but for his -- and his wife's and daughters'. And I feel sorry for him, because the demands of the job won't let him be a regular, hang-out-at-the-barber-shop kind of guy ever again, no matter how much he wants to be.
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