You don't tell each other what to do but you want to control everybody else for your personal gain, a sign of a true collectivist is a good dose of hypocrisy. Atheism doesn't make you any more or any less susceptible to mass delusions, , USSR was based on atheism. I am an atheist, I am also anti collectivist and I find it rude to tell others what to do. You, on the other hand like to tell others what to do, that is your collectivist nature and atheism does nothing to get rid of that rudeness as you call it.
What you really are is an opportunist who sees people as resources to be manipulated and used to achieve your personal goals, which is why your stated ideology is that of some type of a socialist. You want others to drink the poison for you, be a sport, set an example.