So remind me again why trans people acting on their own fundamental and unchangeable mental processes that don't hurt anyone are bad? Maybe also explain again why respecting these people is "identity politics" while hating on them isn't as I didn't follow your logic there. I also don't follow how struggling to find new terminology to cover a minority group that has only been recently recognized (despite having always been there) is hateful.
For grown adults...no one gives a fuck if they want to play dress up, or call themselves whatever they want to call themselves (pronouns , etc).
The problem is when they want to force the overwhelming majority of normal people in the world to play their game with them....
Throwing fits when a normal server at a restaurant calls what looks to be a male "mr" or "sir"....trying to get them fired, etc.
It comes when men calling themselves women, start to intrude into real womens' spaces...locker rooms, competing in women's sports....etc.
The real thing that sank that ship, is when they started coming for children.
Trying to force books on trans and queer on school children.....in some states, ruling against parents that refused to permanently harm their kids with medical "trans help treatments"....hormones, surgery.
Allowing ultra left teachers to hide secrets on sexuality from parents while allowing them to speak sexuality into the children's ear....
People tend to get really fucking uptight when you start fucking with their kids....and moving to that plane was a bridge too far for normal people and parents.
Again, if you're a grown adult...you can dress and act how you want to....you can chop off or surgically do whatever you want with your own body and no one care.....aside from not wanting to PAY for it....that's on you too.