If you don't like an online forum's moderation, then you are completely free to find one more to your liking, or even start your own.
But believe me, sooner or later if your online forum takes off in any way, you're going to get some trolls, and if they aren't checked, they'll drive out anyone reasonable people. I've seen more than one forum collapse under the weight of uncontrolled trolling. It even happened to a local community web forum, where three or four very abusive posters who seemed to have infinite amounts of time on their hands attacked everyone else. The admin believed strongly in giving posters wide latitude, and by the time he realized that he should have been a bit more vigorous in moderating comments, and perhaps kicked off the worst offenders, it was too late, and it dwindled away until he finally just shut it down. The trolls, of course, having "won", by their bizarre definition, couldn't tolerate the place anymore because it had basically become an online circle jerk.
Frankly, I'd never run a web forum. Even back in ye olden days when I ran a BBS with about thirty users at its max, I still had a couple of assholes, so it's not a new problem, it's just that ease of access makes it all the worse.