You assert: "EVs are heavier and generate a lot lot lot more tire particulate". If the cause of extra tyre wear, and therefore particulates, is the weight of the car, then excess tyre wear is unavoidable according to your theory.
The way I see it, a single case can disprove your theory. You're asserting that "all swans are white" equivalent scenario. Finding a single black swan disproves your theory.
So in that spirit, my EV has significantly less tyre wear than all of my previous ICE cars (performance cars, family cars, and everything in between). I drive on Michelin Pilot Sport 4, considered an Ultra-High Performance tyre. Generally considered to get around 20k miles. I replaced my first set of tyres at exactly 35k miles, and only because I got a bolt through one of them. My second set have about 50% wear on them at 27k miles. I drive my EV like I drove all my previous cars
Yes, my single anecdote disproves your theory. So I'm going to call you full of shit on this front, Anonymous Coward.
You're not wrong about walkable cities and public transportation, though.