CONTROVERSIAL : of, relating to, or arousing controversy
controversy : a discussion marked especially by the expression of opposing views : dispute
There is no implication of judgement in this definition. If you add something to the definition, or put words like wonderful in my mouth, that is your perception (problem),
Clearly we dispute as a result of controversy. Your perceived context is just wrong.
I don't me seeing something as controversial as controversial.
Explain to me how having a child with issues is better for the world, for the parents, or for me than having or adopting a child without?
I predict no response.
One thing that worries me is that this choice seems to be on the rise, especially with Downs Syndrome (possibly due to the trend of more births late in life, where that lateness reduces the chances of another successful pregnancy). I see it everywhere now in the progressive community in which I live. I would go so far as to speculate that in centuries past, child sacrifice may have been nature's way of dealing with such defects. Humans that would not have survived in the natural world are kept alive in our increasingly artificial world.
Nice talking to you.