Better Ways to Handle User Conflicts? 37
An anonymous reader asks: "We are a small startup trying to decide how best to handle the conflicts that will inevitably arise between users which have real-world monetary consequences. While sites like eBay seem to have set the standard for internal/outsourced dispute resolution, it frequently feels like a random corporate drone is choosing your fate for you. Other sites like GimmeNow.com have come up with various variations on the arbitrary mediation (they use rock, paper, scissors for parties that can't come to an obvious agreement) which seem to be more interactive, yet still feels like a resolution system heavily biased by luck. Slashdot, how do you handle user conflicts in a way that feels fair to everyone involved?"
Give them a "Time-out" (Score:3, Funny)
"HEY, you better finish you vegetables!"
Easy (Score:1, Offtopic)
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Dont forget we are a classless society now
Don't bother reinventing the wheel (Score:4, Insightful)
The person that "loses" is always going to feel like they were slighted, regardless of the conflict resolution mechanism in place. Nobody on the losing side of a lawsuit says "Welp, I lost. Sucks to be me!" There's always the "they failed to consider all the facts in the case, the jury was stacked, my lawyer was drunk..."
My advice is to pick a system that's out there, and run with it. It saves you the hassle of trying to come up with something "fair" that nobody will consider "fair" anyway.
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I think that's absolutely correct. Also, by using a system that's already in use on another well-known site if someone complains about the unfairness of the system you can always play the "well someothersite.com uses it for their x million customers without much trouble" card.
The only thing you might have to watch out for is that you implement it and then 5 years down the line someothersite.com sues you for infringing on their IP of "a system by which to resolve user conflicts by means of <your conflic
Strongbad gives direction ... (Score:1)
Cage Match (Score:2)
Seriously though, you didn't say what kind of site you are, which sort of makes a lot of difference in these sorts of matters. The examples you gave lead me to believe you're some sort of auction/classified ad site, in which case your best bet is probably to just fold now. That space is ridiculously oversaturated, and you're doomed to failure. Just because you're "Ajax-powered" or "Web 2.0 enhanced" doesn't mean you're any different than any of the other 500 sites that do the
This isn't helpful, but... (Score:2)
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Just ignore it for a while, most likely it'll go away.
Then you deal with the persistent problems.
Simple, yet Elegant (Score:3, Funny)
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Depends (Score:2)
Would rock/paper/scissors or similar solutions work? Sure, if you're settling a dispute that's for $5, or a non-monetary dispute am
Let them figure it out for themselves (Score:2)
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Easy. (Score:2)
Thunderdome. (Score:1)
--saint
Not as good as thunderdome but more portable... (Score:2)
Mediation (Score:2)
I would look into some mediation training for your CS reps. Mediation, unlike arbitration, is not binding and costs less. By mediation techniques, you should be able to come up with an equitable solution.
Re: (Score:1)
Mediation is your mother saying "Can't we all just get along?"
Courts are your father saying "You lied. Play time is over, go to your room."
I've done mediation, and I'll never do it again. Not that I'm bitter.
USSR Conflict Resolution (Score:1)
Alternate universe? (Score:2)
Dunno what you're smoking, but *share*!
Talk on the phone or meet in person if possible (Score:2)
Far and away, the best approach is to meet in person. If that is not possible, it should be possible to talk it over on the phone. Hearing the person's voice immediately has a calming influence. With cross-cultural confusion and general illiteracy making written communication prone to misunderstandings, it is important to revert
I have a big stick (Score:2)
[shrug] Works for me.
Oh and rock/paper/scissors is winable (Score:2)
IANAL (Score:1)
It'll depend, but there's one constant (Score:1, Redundant)
What method's best depends on exactly what kind of things you're doing. You don't say what your business will be, so it's hard to say what's going to work best.
The one constant, though, is that you'll always have at least one unreasonable party involved. If both parties were reasonable they'll likely come to some sort of acceptable resolution without needing to go to dispute resolution, so if they get to needing your process at least one of them's being unreasonable and ornery. Whatever process you use has
The resolution is dependant on the conflict (Score:1)
I have used several methods in the past. Petty disagreements between employees whose feelings are hurt can be solved as easily as getting the two employees away from the workplace for lunch or maybe a drink or two after hours. It remo
Lemme guess... (Score:2, Funny)
"Hey Joe, the VC isn't coming in so easily for our dispute resolution company."
"Maybe we need a better business model..."
"Yeah, but who has the time to come up one of those in today's environment?"
"Meh, let's just ask Slashdot."
- RG>
One IT Manager's solution (Score:2)
It looks suspiciously like a 4 wood found next to a trash can, but works just fine for my purposes.