While I don't deny those kinds of comments exist, I'm not including those examples in my generalities. Furthermore, they tend to be rare. At least in professional environments I work in.
The emotional petting I'm referring to is more inline with offering constructive criticism. When someone is fucking up and not correcting it themselves, it's up to the team leader to address it. With men I have found this is as simple as "You're doing this wrong. Here's how it should be done". Tried that exact same approach with women in my younger days to much different results. Tears were common, also anger. I made sure I delivered the criticism in the exact same tone, same words. Didn't matter.
With women, I've found you have to build them up. Focus on areas they're doing well in first, then deliver the criticism. Then talk about it some more. Then maybe talk about their strengths, then circle back around to the criticism. We go from a 2 second correction to a 15-30 minute conversation where I have to remember to "be nice" the entire time. Like I said, exhausting.
Now, please bear in mind I'm speaking in generalities. Some men need that fluffing too, and I know a handful of women who prefer bluntness. But in my experience, the above stereotype can be relied upon.