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Comment Re:Issue is more complicated (Score 1) 863

Note: I never said I didn't offer praise. Someone does something good, I encourage it. Leadership 101; positive reinforcement is more effective than negative.

That's not, however, what I was talking about.

When I do have to correct someone, men are usually easier to correct because I don't have to pad their egos first. I can deliver the necessary communication and we all can move on. Women? More work because I have to build them up enough to handle the criticism.

Note; I am not saying all women or all men. Just generally speaking.

Comment Re:Issue is more complicated (Score 1) 863

While I don't deny those kinds of comments exist, I'm not including those examples in my generalities. Furthermore, they tend to be rare. At least in professional environments I work in.

The emotional petting I'm referring to is more inline with offering constructive criticism. When someone is fucking up and not correcting it themselves, it's up to the team leader to address it. With men I have found this is as simple as "You're doing this wrong. Here's how it should be done". Tried that exact same approach with women in my younger days to much different results. Tears were common, also anger. I made sure I delivered the criticism in the exact same tone, same words. Didn't matter.

With women, I've found you have to build them up. Focus on areas they're doing well in first, then deliver the criticism. Then talk about it some more. Then maybe talk about their strengths, then circle back around to the criticism. We go from a 2 second correction to a 15-30 minute conversation where I have to remember to "be nice" the entire time. Like I said, exhausting.

Now, please bear in mind I'm speaking in generalities. Some men need that fluffing too, and I know a handful of women who prefer bluntness. But in my experience, the above stereotype can be relied upon.

Comment Re:Issue is more complicated (Score 1) 863

It's worth clarifying; I am an exceptional communicator. I can and do motivate others to achieve their best.

However. I find the required communication methods necessary to properly interface with most women exhausting. Necessary criticism must be delivered in such a way that takes far longer and requires far more redundant communication. Most men, however, are far easier to deal with. These are, of course, generalities.

That you don't have the same reactions suggests you are a far more natural communicator than I, for which I'm envious. So you are very probably right; it is a "me" thing.

Comment Re:Issue is more complicated (Score 2, Interesting) 863

While I appreciate the idea of catering your communication to your target(s), I have to say that dealing with people who need constant emotional petting to stay productive is exhausting ( women mostly ).

I much prefer working with men for this reason. While it's not a guarantee you won't get "Whiny Bitches" in a male dominated environment, it's far less likely. By putting aside the emotional overhead, the entire team can more effectively focus on the task(s) at hand.

Comment Parenting 101 (Score 1) 449

You *listen* to your children, help them explore what they like and dislike. You understand that your children won't like everything, and possibly not even what you like...but I guess there's the rub. Mommy's and Daddy's egos can't accept their children not being little fucking clones of themselves, so they set out to "fix" that.

Ironically, my daughter does like to code and is a fan of STEM subjects in general. She also likes fashion ( although, perhaps notably, only in how it applies to others as she'll often leave the house in whatever is clean-"ish", sans brushing her hair ) and babysitting, neither of which holds any interest to me. But you know what I do? I make sure to encourage her interests, wherever they take her. This isn't some heroic feat. I'm not some exemplar example of parenting. I'm just some guy who has her interests at heart.

Comment Well.. (Score 1, Insightful) 370

Your first mistake was being an asshole. How do I know? Because people, as a rule, are lazy. I'm lazy. You're lazy. We're all lazy. So why, I'm forced to ponder, are so many people intent on fucking with you that it overcomes their natural laziness?

The only answer that makes sense is that you were a raging asshole.

Comment Personal Responsibility? (Score 4, Interesting) 706

Forgive me for being the odd duck out here, but what ever happened to "Personal Responsibility"? I, too, think it's wrong for the hackers to release that information. It sounds like a despicable act of misguided morality to me, but that's irrelevant.

These people took their own lives, the external stressers don't really matter; they CHOSE to commit suicide. Maybe if signing up and using that site was such an emotional risk for them, they shouldn't have done it?

Comment Re:If you don't have riveting hero(s).... (Score 1) 168

If you don't have riveting hero(s), you darned well better have an awesome presentation.

I disagree. Superheroes are, by and large, boring. They're the good guys! They do good things. Whoopee.

It's the bad guys that really give movies and shows their depth. Incidentally, this is also what keeps a lot of marvel movies from being great; the hero is "meh", and the bad guy is "meh". Thor 2? Iron Man 2?

But when the villain is interesting and dynamic? It can save an otherwise blah movie. Case in point; The Dark Knight, with Heath Ledger's Joker. Sans Joker, the movie would have been "ok". Ledger made that movie great.

Heroes can only ever be as interesting as their antagonistic foils.

A sine curve goes off to infinity, or at least the end of the blackboard. -- Prof. Steiner