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Comment: Re:tag, but don't hide! (Score 1) 225

by Unordained (#48867511) Attached to: Facebook Will Let You Flag Content As 'False'

You'd be wrong to think I disagree with you. It cuts both ways, and that's okay!

Going further, I'd like to know what hoaxes other people are being exposed to, so I have some clue before they start spouting fecal matter at the watercooler. Rather than suppress the hoax, I'd rather publicize it (preferably alongside proof.)

Comment: tag, but don't hide! (Score 4, Insightful) 225

by Unordained (#48865103) Attached to: Facebook Will Let You Flag Content As 'False'

I'd rather that people who would normally see such a hoax article in their feed, always go ahead and see it -- with the disclaimer attached. They're likely to see it elsewhere anyway, why not use the opportunity to inform them that it's likely false? Instead, they get to see a story on Fox, then open their Facebook feed, and see nothing about it ... now not only are they not told it's false, it even looks like a liberal conspiracy to cover-up the truth! So very helpful.

Comment: Re:The Dangers of the World (Score 1) 784

by Unordained (#48830097) Attached to: Parents Investigated For Neglect For Letting Kids Walk Home Alone

Children belong to the State.

The converse is hardly better, though. Plenty of parents argue, in the same vein as States' Rights, that their kids are essentially their property to dispose of as they wish: to teach what they wish, to discipline as they wish, and so forth. I'm a parent, and yes, I have that instinct to kill anyone who comes between me and my kid -- but a little humility goes a long way. We're not born knowing how to parent, and many aren't even raised to know how to parent, not having any good role-models. It leaves a lot of parents with a very "well, I survived it, so can you" attitude that is unhealthy. Having a system by which our peers can intervene, either to show us how we're doing our kids a disservice, or to rescue our kids from us when we lose our minds, isn't a bad idea.

Kids belong to themselves, we're just along for the ride, for a while.

Comment: Re:Look at Java/Postgresql (Score 2) 264

by Unordained (#48805527) Attached to: Ask Slashdot: Linux Database GUI Application Development?

Firebird is also cross-platform, extremely safe and reliable, and would also be a good fit for someone with MSSQL experience.

Firebird (was: Interbase) has a significant following in the standalone-app world (because you can deploy an app backed by a full Firebird instance as a DLL, rather than a separate server process, and later switch to the service when you want networked clients) and in the thick-client world (because Interbase was bundled with Borland Builder/Delphi).

Comment: Re:I don't even... (Score 2) 323

by Unordained (#48654557) Attached to: Putting Time Out In Time Out: The Science of Discipline

Unconditional Parenting would ask this: is your goal to get the child in the carseat at all costs (and not be delayed yourself), or to understand why your child is screaming, hitting, and/or running away? Which is more important to you, and why?

This is what I mean by "convenience" -- when we focus on getting what we want (child in carseat, no delay) and we debate what "works" (talking or spanking). And then we're surprised when kids try to manipulate us, trying out various tactics to see what "works" to get what they want out of us...

It's not like we haven't had melt-downs! But underneath all that blubbery mess, there are nearly always actionable reasons: hunger, lack of sleep, injury, bad experience, seemingly-irrational fears, miscommunication, expectation of alternate plans, unvoiced desires... and getting down to those, and addressing them (even if it's by just getting it out in the open, so you can be clear about why that's just NOT going to happen today) helps a lot -- not just in the moment, but every day after.
If my child is putting herself or others in immediate danger, I feel restraint is appropriate. But the goal is to get by long enough to then get to the meat of the matter. If there's an emergency, and I have to throw her in the car against her objections, well, I may very well have to do exactly that, and then discuss and work through it as soon as possible. But when she knows that -- in general -- she'll be listened to, and her desires and objections matter and will be fairly considered, it makes those emergencies a lot more palatable.

Comment: Re:Mind blown (Score 1) 323

by Unordained (#48654215) Attached to: Putting Time Out In Time Out: The Science of Discipline


Your ability to have sex clearly prepared you for the task of raising the most intellectually complex life-form on the planet.
All you needed to know was passed down to you from your parents, who themselves obviously did a perfect job, as exemplified by your very existence.
Nobody else could possibly have a statistically clearly picture of how to raise kids, derived from thousands or millions of experiences, than you and your sole anecdotal self. Yet your child is so unique, so special, that you'll have to blaze your own trail, just for him!
We've survived this long, doing things the way we always have, why should we ever change? Let's not listen to the people trying to explain why, they can't possibly have a point.
Laws just enshrine what we already do, why should we ever decide something's bad and criminalize it? Won't that hurt someone's feelings?!
How you raise your kids, who are of course your property, will never affect the community, so how dare they politely cough and suggest you might want to consider maybe possibly thinking of alternate discipline techniques? Let's just go ahead and call them clueless wankers! (Muesli's not all that tasty, and sandals aren't all that comfortable, but I don't see the appeal as an insult.)
Why would anyone ever even bother suggesting an alternate approach that's inconvenient to you? Preposterous! Waste of time! Unless they have a solution that meets your strict laziness requirements, it's not even worth discussing, much less researching!

Knee-jerk, much?

Comment: Re:I don't even... (Score 2) 323

by Unordained (#48654035) Attached to: Putting Time Out In Time Out: The Science of Discipline

Alfie Kohn, in Unconditional Parenting, argues that focusing on behaviors is insufficient. You can teach a child that if he gets caught doing X, he'll get a spanking, consistently -- and he may avoid getting caught, yes, but this doesn't address the underlying intentions. Kohn isn't opposed to natural consequences (touch fire, get burned) but kids catch on when you punish coming-home-late with taking away desserts, or whatever. Yes, it's a consequence, but only by your decree, which breeds resentment. He describes this as "doing to" rather than "working with". He's a parent, I'm a parent, I watch plenty of other parents, and I see a tendency to treat the symptom rather than the cause, to punish kids for being inconvenient rather than teaching them to be consciously considerate. I see these kids get punished (and rewarded!) all the time, yet develop no empathy.

I catch flak from the older generation, that sees me as "giving in" to my child if I so much as ask her (let alone discuss!) what she wants or why she did what she did, or insist she get a turn instead of letting grown-ups drone on forever. I'm sure it looks like a lack of discipline, to their eyes. It's not what they were taught, no, but unlike their generation, I've felt no need for time-outs or spankings to make my child "behave". She's a high-energy child, not naturally "easy", but my goal isn't to have a picture-perfect, authority-revering doll. I want her to think and care about others, and she does. It all flows from there.

Someone, somewhere, might find the book interesting. I wouldn't suggest not reading it.

Comment: Re:I don't get it (Score 2) 167

by Unordained (#48511207) Attached to: Is a "Wikipedia For News" Feasible?

Crowd-sourcing content is one aspect, but I'm very much looking forward to "subscribing" to a story and getting only updates after that -- as short as possible, whether they be corrections, links to related stories, or truly new information. I can fit a lot more news into my day if I don't have to hear/read the same context/intro information each time there's an update.

Less important to me is a "ask the author" system, by which readers can suggest directions for investigative journalists to take: how is this incident related to previous ones, what's the political context for this, does anyone have any proposed solutions to the problem, has anything changed since this story was posted 6 months ago, etc. I don't necessarily want to read opinions from fellow readers, nor post my own "facts" as a citizen-journalist, I just want to prod journalists into doing more of what they already do well.

Comment: Re:W3C does geolocation? (Score 4, Informative) 100

by Unordained (#48382011) Attached to: Ask Slashdot: Getting Around Terrible Geolocation?

Yeah, I was thinking this guy's got it all backwards. If MaxMind et al are already showing the right position, then the problem is the location returned by the W3C API call in his unspecified browser which depends on which location service his browser uses (possibly not the default), and whether his device is GPS-equipped.

In the absence of GPS, Firefox defaults to using Google Location Service (according to https://www.mozilla.org/en-US/... ), which is not one of the 4 "providers" listed at http://whatismyipaddress.com/ and could easily be the one database that's wrong, causing his confusion. I expect Chrome to do the same. IE may use a Microsoft-provided IP database, again separate from the four above -- I couldn't find confirmation of this.

For servers that don't rely on W3C javascript calls to get your location, it all entirely depends on which service they subscribe to, which you may not be able to find out. Short of submitting corrections to "all of them", you're just out of luck.

Comment: Re:What's the Difference? (Score 2) 102

by Unordained (#48378119) Attached to: Amazon Goes After Oracle (Again) With New Aurora Database

You might check NuoDB, as that's their target audience.

RAC was indeed pretty cool. We did have to fight with the Ops guys, though, over the advertised auto-retry feature, which was dangerous for multi-statement transactions, and the documentation (at least at the time) didn't make that clear.

Comment: Re:Because studies show ... (Score 1) 253

by Unordained (#48151975) Attached to: Facebook and Apple Now Pay For Female Employees To Freeze Their Eggs

Thank you! I'm seeing a lot of comments here about how wonderful it is to make the choice to be a stay-at-home-mom, how great it is for the kids, and how that's not less productive than a high-paying job. But I'm not seeing the equivalent for men, that there's a tough choice between "being a dad" (stay at home dad) and "being a man" (with a job), that each male should be encouraged to make the choice that's right for him without pressure from his employer.

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