There are values and there are values. I told my wife no tattoos, and she knows it is a deal breaker. She has her own deal breakers, and I comply. In your family, I take it you have no deal breakers? Your wife can do anything at all and you would just say " Okay dear - have fun"! Tell Bob , Jim and Sally I picked up the hotel bill for you guys.

Rather than go down the standard road where you end up calling me the M word (admit it, you want to) I have standards. I have boundaries. My wife has standards and boundaries. We respect them because- and I emphasize this we respect each other

And yes - another of my boundaries is respect. It isn't a deal breaker though, just gets a rebuke - after she cools down. Her's? She demands support and respect as well. Extramarital sex is also a deal breaker on her part.

Now back to tattoos. At their very best, they are gilding a lily. Almost all women have an element of beauty in them. Feminine beauty is real. Evolution has insured that.

At their average they are garish, and end up looking like a skin disease, fuzzy and unidentifiable after 20 years.

At their worst, they are a symbol of your love for youe ex, that you would expose yourself to a tattoo artist, and wonder why your new boyfriends don't stick with you. Or then I've been seeing women with teardrop tattoos. They think it is cute - look up wht a teardrop tattoo symbolizes. She better not show up in the wrong place.

You can think all of that is okay if you like - it is your opinion. But acting like I'm some sort of jackass because I don't like it. Is kind of rude

I also like women with freckles, I like tall slender women with long dark hair and blue eyes. But they have to have standards, and boundaries, and they have to respect my standards and boundaries. If tattoos are okay in your book, then that what you like - or maybe accept. Here's one for you - if your spouse looked like this, would you say "You slay queen" if she decided to look like that nightmare fuel on the left?https://www.tyla.com/life/true-life/worlds-most-tattooed-woman-shares-throwback-picture-943343-20240216

Finally, is there a level of tattoos your wife could get that caused you to say "no more!. ? If there is, you have a standard. So don't high road me.

Which is why I said they would have to get them on their genitals or a tramp stamp, below the bikini line. I noted that I have seen them sleeveless, in shorts, in backless gowns. in bathing suits, It ends up being a additive process. I'd I've seen the uncovered arms, legs, backs, necks, Not all at once, but over time, most of them.

And the other thing is that most of these ladies are not the mentality of a woman who gets tattoos.

Funny, I've lived in the boardroom for around 20 years, and you know how many C-suite women have tramp stamps? Explain how you know this fact.

I've worked with enough highly placed ladies to get close to them as friends, and they are simply not the type. They tend conservative, they tend understated, they tend to have husbands who pretty obviously wouldn't put up with that.

I certainly would not. If my wife came home with a tattoo, we'd be divorced ASAP.

You might not like it, you might believe that a woman covered with tattoos on her whole body is empowering and putting to the patriarchy - but you can't shake the opinion of many men that tattoos on a woman is a sign of making bad choices, and the more tattoos the more bad choices.

The fun part is after the empowerment and showing men that their bodies are their choices, after a while, the tats fuzz out and if you have enough, they look like you have a skin disease.

In the end, it is a great way for men to winnow out who is worth it or not. Many of us look at tattoos on a woman as similar to the rattles on a snake or the colors on a poisonous frog - stay well away. And it is a great way for tatted women to avoid having men who don't like tattoos to stay away from them.

Would you marry a woman with immediately above her vulva a tat that has "Bobby forever" or a tramp stamp that Say's "Only for you Bobby" ? What if she wanted to reconnect with Bobby for a week or so to get "closure" ? A lot of moderns like to do that. Closure is very important.

Being hurt or not is irrelevant to the facts of the situation. And your vapid comment just shows the womanist influence. Someone can lay out a lot of facts, and somehow, some way, the replay is using the M word, or the I word, or your dumb reply.

You folks have overused the pejorative words too many times, they now have the same effect as the rudder on a motionless ship. I only reply so that others might take note.

Yeah, my students are having a hellava time with their shiny new Windows 11 computers shitting the bed. I even switched over to the MacOS build of the software in order to know it works.

I've never been all that worried about market share or installed user base. More the opposite. I call it the VHS effect. VHS ruled the early camcorder and home recording market. It was also the worst technology among it's peers.

I guess the main difference is that Linux and MacOS aren't going away.

By the way I don't know if you've seen the post I made about my Emergency Digital RF communications or not, and how W11 is making a trainwreck out of the sound drivers. of which the whole thing falls apart. During Windows 7 days you set it, and it worked. No more.

Windows 10 had enough issues with Sound drivers already, then W11 came along and said "Hold my beer!"

Windows 1 sucked too. I haven't had one driver problem with Linux for over a decade and a half. In fact, I've had many many more with Windows. They will kill drivers, while Linux allows the old drivers to work. My group has had so many problems with W11 drivers bin wrecked with updates.

Never install Linux without an internet connection. It runs out to the net and downloads and installs them.

And do not try to impose Windows mores on Linux. I've seen so many people try to do that.

You will have to learn a little for some things, but there are repos that make the install process for programs a lot easier than Windows.

Anyhow, I just moved my windows 10 laptop to Mint, works great, and is stable.

Cassandra moment follows. I've done a bit of research on the issues, because of personal interest. I'd spent several years in the attempts to increase the number of women in STEM careers, and wondered why they fail.So I do personal research - and no, not just the internet.

A whole lot has to do with the increased divorce rate or even increasing it. As we went into the middle of the first decade of the 2000's, some very strange things happened. Womanism gained a lot of traction, and taught women that they have no boundaries, that whatever they decided was correct. The whole open marriage concept became an anthem. Note - just for her though. Or covert affairs were also her birthright. Her body, her choices.

Back to the sub topic here, While it does happen that men will make impulsive decisions under the effects of drugs, women are. now encouraged to do this sort of thing by their peers. I've even seen attempts at normalizing facial tats.

As I have always tried to tell women, you don't see tattooed women in the board room. And yes, at social events, I've seen enough at various times. Backless, off the shoulder, sleeveless, in shorts - the claim holds (unless of course they get the naughty bits tatted)

There has been a trend of most divorces being initiated by women - usually because they get bored, and want new men to sample - with a sudden recent spike at perimenopause, when women almost universally hate their husbands in addition of being bored with them. So a lot of single women apparently looking for a last hurrah in the sexual marketplace.

A new phenomenon is emerging however, men are starting to catch up and divorce for personal peace.

An interesting and non-sustainable trend.

It is exactly a Microsoft problem. An OS that fails after updates has nothing to do with your textwall. While very interesting to get an expert outlook, here is what people want. They want their gaddpammed computer to work after Microsoft updates it. My Mac machines work after updates, My Linux machines work after updates. My shiny new Windows laptop has had two failures already, and I've only had it a month. I have a post below about classes I teach, once upon a time everyone was working after two sessions. Today, It's like whack-a-mole. Whose computer is going to fail this time? We spend more time troubleshooting to find what Windows 11 did than actually work with the systems. The only good thing is we're coming up with a laundry list of failures (sound drivers and USB are the main culprits. I switched to the MacOS version of the software - 100 percent uptime.

So yes, it is a bit difficult to say that Microsoft is not at fault when the alternatives to Windows 11 function flawlessly, and even better, they stay functioning, do not fail.

I've trained people in Digital RF Emergency communications since W7 Days. And oh how it has changed. Back then we had everyone up and running in two 2 hour sessions, and they stayed running. Today, with everyone on W7, it has been 2 months, and still not everyone is working. Or better said, systems that were running stop running. Windows 11 updates come along and wreck everything. Especially Sound drivers, which are an integral part of the computer to radio interface. One big one is sound enhancements. They turn them off, the update turns them back on. Drivers themselves change often. And Windows often nucs the audio even if it is just downloaded, not installed yet. That last was a problem with W10 as well.

For my own part, I switched to Mac based system of the same software. It runs at 100 percent uptime.

Another good option is Linux. I've put together a number of Linux setups which run great. Software syncs with the hardware, and once you get it running, it stays running

The problem isn't that the system cannot run well - the problem is with the number of people who have Windows computers and expect them to work, when the problem is that Microsoft 11 is a disaster. I'm going to have my Cassandra moment, telling some folks where the problem lies. You can't decide where emergencies are going to occur, so they might happen right after an update. And if you update in downtime, you have to set up the system again. Go through it to find what changed, change it back to what it was, and test.

Not ready for primetime. Or any time. MacOS and Linux work, and stay working. Windows 11? No.

Or the young lady who tattooed her boyfriend's name right above her vulva, then broke up with him a little later. She's been having difficulties finding new relationships ever since. Seems new guys don't care for being reminded of her ex while entertaining her.

This is true. And this is why there are penalties. Some here believe it is the physical injury aspect only, when in fact the computer crime can have an impact on thousands, and their families, and their cities, and their customers.

So maybe a stern lecture would be sufficient enough?

As for crimes in which someone kills another, there is a whole laundry list. Which one is the one you are referring to?

A non-complete list has:

Involuntary Manslaughter

Manslaughter

Negligent homicide

Depraved indifference murder

Second Degree murder

First degree murder.

And an array of punishments as well. Everything from a few years to life to the death penalty. This is by design, because accidentally killing someone is different than torturing someone, then killing them and documenting your process. Sometimes accidentally killing someone won't even get a trial.

I'm drifting off topic here, but I'm curious. In the US, there is a marked disparity in sentences depending on sex and "race". Does any such problem exist in Germany? (here women get the least, and African origin males get the most)

Not to belabor the obvious, but sentence disparities exist by sex and "race". Women get the least, white males more, and males of African origin get the most. So it's comparing apples and oranges.

I'm not all that interested in the password against the total cost thing. As you point out there are other things involved.

In the place I retired from, there were regular meetings with shakers and movers with a high burn rate. Stop one of those, and you can lose millions in a short time.