Maybe you have a chance to man handle a 6'2" 250lb man who's spent 5 of the last 10 years in jail working out, but my wife will use a gun to keep her and kids safe.
You say that there are situations where other self defense should be used rather than a gun, implying that some other thing can stop them, and that you would get other chances. If your or ones you care about are under serious physical threat, then you do what you have to. The best way is to avoid situations like the yelling matches (please see "More Guns, Less Crime" for data on people who CCW are involved with less crime). But when they don't give you a choice, I hope you got a good plan B on your hip.
My wife vs the above man has a better chance when they are both armed, than both not. (50% both armed Guns are the great equalizer. Oh and my wife is a better shot than I am.
I care not about the attacker when it comes to keeping my wife and kids safe. Male/female, 16 or 46, the outcome of the attacker is forfeit. Only after I insure safety of mine, will I consider the safety of the bad guy.
The right to bear arms is the right to carry. Now please stop turning us into victims.