I find the three 5 star posts in this thread (so far) sad.
The points come across as sanctimonious and the tone is scolding. Scolding to the kids for doing something the authors deem stupid; sanctimonious towards parents who apparently don't care about these stupid kids, or they would have raised them differently and therefore produced different outcomes.
I know the tech sections of the internet skew heavily towards very young, white males, and this may account for the high rating of these posts, but they all show a lack of insight into how humans life is actually lived and what the source of human development actually entails.
The implied requirement of these posts only has to be articulated to be dismissed- that you never do anything stupid, impulsive or otherwise compromising over the entire course of your life in the presence of other human beings (who we can now assume have cameras on thier phones and phones on their person). If you did, tough luck, you were probably old enough to know to not have done that (based on some nebulous theory harbored by the authors), yet you did it anyways.
It would be hard to formulate a more stifling atmosphere than the "wrong once, wrong forever" ethos which permeates these posts. Learning happens through exploring and testing limits imposed by society which come into conflict with the personal perceptions of the individual. That also happens to be how society progresses and the same kind of people who do one are likely later in their lives to be leading the other.
We need the trangressors, the limit testers, the irrational impulse followers, the people who value and trust their own (often mistaken) perceptions above the externally imposed voice of their parents and society because that is just the population which later invents, leads society forward, *thinks different*.
The punishment which society now can and according to these post's authors, should, impose for what were previously private acts of boundary testing by society's youngest members is insane. We're talking about people whose brains can be shown to be anatomically uniquely susceptible to impulsive decisions, which cannot work out the real consequences of their actions, cannot yet accurately model the minds of others or consider long term implications of their decisions.
Not coincidentally I see all of these limitations in these posts themselves .
The fantastical implied requirement embedded in these posts is that people stop going through a developmental stage of life and just get on to adulthood. This is actually how the world thought of children prior to the late 19th and 20th centuries; children were adults in miniature. I would refer you to the history of the 19th and 20th centuries to see the resultant handiwork of people who were actually raised under the influence of that factually incorrect theory.
They say we're are ony one generation away from barbarism, from regressing to previous states of societal ignorance and barbarity, one generation away from the triumph of folk theries of the world and human behavior over science. People aren't mentally ill, they're willfully cretinous. People lives aren't ruined and they aren't driven into destitution through labor-law-free working environments, they simply lack industry. Young people aren't qualitatively different in their reasoning and cognition from adults, they just know fewer facts.
If it were up to me, every high schooler would have to have three semesters of developmental psychology in order to graduate. The first concern society has with education has to be to ensure the non-regression of its members.
To address just one poster's point directly, yes, people know not to drop their pants at high school graduation ceremony. But you can't use your intuition and "common sense" to then relatively score any potential human behaviour in any potential social situation as either more or less developmentally advanced than that pants dropping one. You can't blithely assign a developmental score and a concomitant culpability score.
It's scary to read the pitiless posts on this thread. I hope that the authors themselves later develop the knowledge of not just their own strong opinions and intution but the outside world and the facts that govern that world and the people in it to reflect on their posts as a kind of youthful foolishness, preserved forever on the internet.