Just in case any of you are wondering about what's happening about "that"
So, why did I write this particular entry? Because
So here are a few things that are happening"
With only one exception, my 3-d or "in person" friends have been 100% supportive over the last couple of years. Even that exception really isn't an exception, but more a "it's going to take some getting used to" and worries about how other people will react.
Actually, they've been MORE than 100% supportive. They're really great. They've gone out of their way to make me feel at ease, and they really do understand what I'm dealing with. I love them for it, and everyone should have friends like that.
Important appointment next Tuesday (it would have been Monday, but next Monday is Thanksgiving in Canuckistan) to start mapping out the future (medical, legal, etc.) This should be fun. I really have to make a final decision on some things, like first and middle names, before then.
One of my friends has been having a lot of fun with that
I'm getting the hang of "there are no problems - just opportunities" as a way of looking at things. It really makes a difference. Maybe I'm only now able to do that because of the other changes I have to make in my life, or maybe I just got tired of worrying about the "what ifs"
This came about as a sort of personal epiphany when I realized that I was wasting too much time looking at what could go wrong and why, rather than what was right. Sure, the former mindset is great for "defensive coding", but NOT for running your life
Maybe a better way to sum it up is that it really is about emotions, about how you feel, and not some "solve the problem and everything will be okay" thing. Solving the problems doesn't "make things okay." That's putting the cart before the horse. Being in a good place with myself and those around me means that problems can't overwhelm me, so they lose their power over my thinking.
(BTW, I seriously doubt most of the guys reading this will "get it", even if they claim loudly that they do)
There's not enough time in the world to do everything. Like email everyone I want to email. Talk to everyone I want to talk to. Visit everyone I want to visit.
But that's okay
"Know Thyself." Except that, no matter how much you think you do, there are always going to be surprises, because reality has a way of giving you new experiences, new ways of looking at things, and new insights, if only you keep your mind open and receptive to change.
Sometimes I surprise myself. This weekend was one of those times. I was discussing my future plans with a friend, and she asked me "Are you happy?" Surprisingly, the answer is a simple "yes." Surprising, because until recently I would have felt the need to qualify that answer. I can live with that
Again, thanks, and take care.