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Submission + - Ask Slashdot: Dealing with gaslighting colleague 3

An anonymous reader writes: What's the best unofficial way to deal with a gaslighting colleague? For those not familiar, I mean the definition from this link:

Gaslighting occurs at the workplace in the form of bullies unscheduling things you’ve scheduled, misplacing files and other items that you are working on and co-workers micro-managing you and being particularly critical of what you do and keeping it under their surveillance. They are watching you too much, implying or blatantly saying that you are doing things wrong when, in fact, you are not. As you can see, this is a competitive maneuver, a way of making you look bad so that they look good;

In addition to above, I'd add Poring over every source-code commit, and then criticising it even if the criticism is contradictory to what he previously said.

Raising things through the official channels is out of the question, as is confronting the colleague in question directly as he is considered something of a superstar engineer who has been in the company for decades and has much more influence than any ordinary engineer.

So, what do slashdotters recommend (other than leaving or escalating via the official channels)?

Comment Re:Accounting isn't what you think it is (Score 1) 370

Seriously? Quite a bit actually.

Then why don't you give at least one specific example.

Should $FOO go as OPEX in $BAR or CAPEX with a depreciation in $BAZ?

As hard as it is to believe, while a lot of the basic bookkeeping decisions are very rigidly structured, questions like the above are very much a matter of preference - it's possible for both paths to give the same basic fiscal result but for one path to be advantageous in one environment but not in another

Comment Re:depends (Score 1) 343

Since you seem to know it, explain me this: I have studied lisp for a while, and I never actually found that magic that suddenly made me much better than I was before. "You can redefine the language!", the ads said. I still don't get it: yes, I can add new functions. I can do the same thing in pretty much _every single other language out there_. Yes, I can pass code blocks to other code blocks. I can do that in other languages too, and only occasionally use it for some small code improvement - it's not a silver bullet that redefines how I write software. So, where is it, that magic you people keep talking about?

In Lisp you can do more than add new functions or pass blocks of code around. Maybe you didn't learn it well.

Comment Re:SubjectIsSubject (Score 1) 164

I'm pretty sure both books are routinely ignored.

The one book directly forms the basis of government and law in many countries; it is, indeed, routinely followed to the letter.

[snipped anecdotal evidence]

It is not the religion, per se, that is the problem. It is fundamentalists or extremists who claim to be part of the religion that are the problem.

In case you hadn't noticed, the fundamentalist followers of one of the books number so few that they are hardly a rounding error, while the fundamentalist followers of the other book (while still in a minority) comprise a significant percentage of the followers.

Your point that both the books prescribes barbarism is correct, your conclusion that both the religions are practiced in an equally barbaric manner is not.

Comment Re:SubjectIsSubject (Score 2, Interesting) 164

Quran (5:51) - "O you who believe! do not take the Jews and the Christians for friends; they are friends of each other; and whoever amongst you takes them for a friend, then surely he is one of them; surely Allah does not guide the unjust people."

And I'm pretty sure that the Old Testament says that kids who sass their parents should be put to death. Not to mention the large number of "abominations" outside of being gay that are routinely ignored in Leviticus.

You are comparing a book that is routinely ignored with a book that is routinely followed.

Comment Re:Whatever next? (Score 1) 366

men are rapidly following suit in dropping out of the relationship game because it is too dangerous.

Not being able to get a date is not quite the same as "dropping out of the relationship game".

Why do you care if young men don't want to commit? Your daughter having trouble being attracted to white knights?

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