is "Are women and minorities mistreated more often, or are white men more tolerant of being mistreated?"
Unfortunately, there's no possible way to ask that question that won't produce an hysterical, blind hatred response from pretty much everybody.
Let's try this one.
It's possible either through basic expectations, or being sold a bill of goods, that many women are convinced both that they can have it all, and that the workplace is a place of fulfillment and happiness.
And yet, none of us actually has it all. I had as much as I could, but juggling a family life and professionalism, I really had to juggle my schedule, and work a lot of extra hours.
And just as a personal observation, so many women came into the workplace looking at it as a sprint to success. That somehow you would work hard for acouple years, then rest on your laurels. It's not a sprint - it's a marathon.
The final issue ties in with the second one. There is competition in the workplace. Not the beat someone in a sport or anger type competition, but one in which some people are willing to work harder and longer. I think this is a guy thing. I have it. If I am willing to work longer and harder, should I be punished for that? Because I have worked with women who do a very good job, but they put in 8 hours, and no more. I am convinced that they believe that competition between employees is mistreatment.
Some of this is conjecture, but all of it is based upon workplace experience. As for the cure, I am not so certain what will work. I think that males have made a lot of adjustments, but it is possible that to achieve equal success, that females might have to make the final adjustment. We always expect insant results, and perhaps meeting in the middle might expedite that.
Is that blind hatred?