Taking the second into account, a lot of the pay gap goes away.
At this time, the pay gap is below the error of measurement. Yes, sexism continues to be a problem especially as a specific type of women tries to compensate for lower misogynism by doing as much misandrism as they can. But there will always be plenty of stupid people (of all genders) around that try to elevate themselves that way. But the pay gap, the restrictions in education and political power and the restrictions on what work you can do, dependent on gender, are basically gone. Trying to create a victim narrative on what is left makes the people doing it part of the problem.
Obviously, you cannot have it all. You cannot, for example, be the person to primarily raise your children and have a full career. There is just not enough time in a day to do that. But, and that is perhaps the biggest sign this problem is solved on the level of western society, is that in particular women can decide to not have children and still be full members of society. Obviously, most religious fuckups are deeply unhappy with that and try to fight it, but these people should not be listened to concerning anything anyways.