Submission + - Where does a geek find a social life? 10
JustShootMe writes: "So I have a question for my fellow slashdotters, and yes, I realize I am throwing myself into the lion's den covered with tasty meat flavored sauce. I have never been a very social person, preferring to throw myself into technology, therefore I've been spectacularly unsuccessful in developing any meaningful interpersonal relationships. Lately I have begun to feel that this situation is not tenable, and I would like to fix it. But I really don't know how and haven't the faintest idea where to start. I know that I am in the minority and there are many different kinds of slashdot readers, most of whom have vastly more experience in this realm than I do. So, fellow slashdotters, please tell me. How, and more importantly, where, do you meet fellow geeks, preferably including some of the opposite gender, in meatspace?"
Ballroom Dancing (Score:2)
Try taking ballroom dancing. There are always more women than men (except for the odd class now and then). It's a LOT easier than people think and once you learn to give a firm lead, then you'll find you're a desirable dance partner.
I started ballroom dancing because I was scared to death of it. I was such a klutz in school even the teachers made fun of me (one called me "physical degenerate" in front of the entire grade, for example). I found many of the dances are easier to learn than I would have dre
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I'm not sure if you included this in "ballroom dancing," but I'd also specifically add swing dancing (e.g. Lindy Hop, East Coast Swing). It's the only thing I've ever found that has a disproportionately high number of geeks -and- women. Seriously, quite a few swing dancers are of the geek persuasion, and there's almost always more women than men. Plus, you basically get to meet a new person of the opposite gender every time there's a new song, and people generally don't care how good of a dancer you are as
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I don't know whether to include swing under ballroom or not. If you learn ballroom, you'll learn some swing, but if you go to just the swing places, you won't learn many (if any) ballroom dances other than swing. I guess it's a matter of personal preference. I like swing, but in proportion, or rather as a few of many dances I'll try for the evening.
What you say, about states and so on, applies to most ballroom dances as well (perhaps not Argentine tango, but that's an animal all to itself, and boy! What
Yoga and bars (Score:2)
If you have friends, or work-friends at least, try to start going out with them to bars or clubs, as much as you can. Try to overcome your shyness, seriously what's the worst that could happen. If you're not com
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Don't know about yoga, but bars are OK. You actually don't need friends for that, I go to bars by myself all the time. Over time, you get used to it, particularly if you stick to the same bars. At first, you can just sit there and drink, and subsequently you may try to approach a girl, particularly if she's been eyeing you a lot. Remember: genuine (not fake) interest about her life will get every girl talking eagerly to you in bare minutes.
Another great venue is online dating - just by putting your profile
Anime club? (Score:1)
What kind of geek are you? (Score:1)
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Fair enough. 33, linux systems administrator, I'm a fairly accomplished pianist as a hobby, also like electronics and other kind of similar stuff. Took a few photos too.
That said, I was as generic as possible intentionally. slashdot ain't a geek dating site. :-)
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