My argument is:
Women occupy "the center" of "the ladder". There's a few at the top, percentage wise less than men, but they're well established at the top as CEO's board members, elected officials etc... There's next to none at the very bottom, an area all but exclusively occupied by men. In the middle women get preferential treatment to men due to government pushes.
Why aren't people bitching women aren't at the very bottom also? If they really want equality they will want to be equal across the entire spectrum, not just the middle and top. Women not wanting to do open source where the door is literally open to anyone who wants to help from anywhere with an Internet connection, and in the case of OLPC's and the like even open to those who don't is not the fault of men. It is because women aren't doing it.
It is dishonest to say they want equality then not take the bottom rung too.
Stop pointing the finger at men when women chose not to do something.
I have shoveled shit, painted fences, picked cantaloupe, chopped weeds, washed cars, and moved furniture myself. I know what the workplaces are like, is it up to men to soften up or women to toughen up? I've worked with women that had toughen up and were worse than the men, they all hold a special place in my heart and I respect them greatly for it. I can't wrap my head around the concept of expecting the entire world to change to accommodate the incompatibilities of a few unwilling individuals because another part of the society thinks those unwilling individuals need to be in positions they're incompatible with. The case of open source, being so accepting and wide open proves my point, not the other way around.