And answer your questions from the standpoint of scholars. Keep in mind this is not my research this is research that has been done by biblical scholars. The ones that work at universities not apologists and scam artists but people who can actually read Hebrew.
The ancients had a completely different concept of sex than we do. Sex was an act of domination it was never an act between two consenting adults. Adults didn't consent. Sex was something you did to somebody not something you did with somebody.
It says both of them are considered abomination because the belief was that when the hierarchical order of nature, which was a dominant man penetrating a submissive woman (keeping in mind that the woman wasn't just submissive she was a lesser type of being) that doing anything other than that would actually poison the land.
So they really did believe that gay sex caused hurricanes and crop failures. At least the priesthood did, who the hell knows what the rank and file thought because they couldn't read or write.
This is a completely different framework for sex and sexual relationships than what we have today. The idea of two consensual adults mutually choosing to have sex as a means of either pleasure or an expression of love was completely out the window for them. It wasn't even transactional, it was about domination.
This is why in the story of Sodom and Gomorrah they wanted to rape the angels. It wasn't about raping the Angels it was about dominating the angels and showing them who was boss
Incidentally the sin of Sodom wasn't gay sex, it was in hospitality and having an abundance of bread that you didn't share with the poor. Seriously look it up.
Just about everything in the Bible you get told by a preacher is a lie so that they can get money and power from you.