I have a Polestar 2... about 4500lbs. My first factory set of tires lasted 30K miles, but got replaced because I got a lag bolt through one of the tires AND the rim right at actually 32K miles, and since it was about to go into winter in the Midwest I felt it safest to have matched wear across all four tires.
I now have over 70K miles on my car and while I'm looking at the tires thinking it might be time soon for some new tires it's more because again it's about to go into winter in the Midwest and I prefer to have good rubber when the snow falls. All-season performance tires, I do NOT drive like a granny and I have the performance software upgrade so I do occasionally enjoy doing the 4 second 0-60 launches for fun.
The weight difference issue is also super overblown. Note that while my car is around 4500lbs, a directly competing car at the same time with similar performance and overall practicality was the Audi RS5 Sportback (2022 model year) which has a listed weight of 4000lbs. So there's a 500lb difference but it's important too to note that car weights are listed as empty weights. 15 gallons of fuel weighs 90lbs, 8 quarts of oil add another 15lbs and so on. The difference in weight is pretty small when you look at directly competing ICE. Yes, there's definitely an issue of tire wear because of the power the cars put down, but I've driven powerful cars since long before I drove an EV and they are all in the 3.5-4.5 second range and had tire wear similar enough that I don't seriously believe it's a factor.