Gays, Lesbians, and Bisexuals are about sexual practices. Transgendered is a bastardized term that includes cross-dressers and drag queens, which is a sexual fetish (not that I'm criticizing this, to each their own, etc). Unfortunately, even in the LGBT, many people think that transsexuals are really just gay cross-dressers. This attitude comes from the top down, as many of the influential LGBT organizations are directed exclusively by gay white men.
They don't get that transsexuals are different - live brain scans have proven that our brains resemble our target gender both in sexually dimorphic areas, and in the overall networking. Even the general public is often more enlightened ,,, sheesh! When they argue that they've helped transsexuals by having drag queens on their floats, it's way past time to take them seriously.
Not that I ever had contact with any LGBT groups - didn't need to deal with their crap in addition to my own :-) But I see others buying into the whole "you need to let us keep you safe in our gay ghetto because it's a safe space where we all can live authentic lives" bullcrap. Sure, I've known a few gays and lesbians, but that doesn't mean that I need their weird brand of withdraw-from-the-world protection - I leave that to the cults.
We achieved social acceptance long before gays came out of the closet - Christine Jorgensen is a good example of early fame and fortune. We got this reception because the vast majority of people are curious. It was only when the gay rights movement came out and started rioting that we got caught in the back-splash of religious intolerance. So, in a way, they've been riding our coat-tails to a certain extent. After all, we could marry in our target gender without enabling legislation, they couldn't.
The worst part is, if you say any of this, "you're harming the community." My message to them is "You're not my community. My community is family, friends, neighbors, acquaintances ... without respect to color, ethnic origin, sex, sexual orientation, gender, physical or mental illness, etc ...." Rather than hiding in a gay ghetto because I need protection to live an authentic life (btw - how the heck do you live an authentic life when you're so paranoid about the rest of the world???) I help shape the world around me to be my "safe space" - for everyone.
I also don't like the bogus "self-affirming" games that transsexuals in the LGBT movement play ... the latest one was "this year we should all wear purple to mark the Transgender Day of Remembrance." A pretty safe thing to do because nobody outside their little group even knows what it signifies ... and if it ever gets to the point where people do, will they be pressured to out themselves by cooperating? This is slacktivism. Why not wear a T-shirt that says "Yes, I am a transsexual. Any questions for me?" and a big smiley face to invite discussion. I'd wear it to the mall ... but them? "Oh noes!" "Too dangerous!" They wouldn't dare take any action to pay it forward in memory of those who fought for our rights before us. No wonder they feel they have to hide in the gay ghetto to have their "safe spaces" and lead their circumscribed "authentic lives." Deep down, they are ashamed.
Stockholm Syndrome is what it is.