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Is it disrespectful to a man's wife\girlfriend\committed relationship if your best friend sends you naked pictures of other women?
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Ok, now for my opinion. I feel that ok, guys might share the sneaked Playboy when they were adolescents. Moved on to e-mailing internet smut in college. But that a 30 something who has moved on to real life women and relationships that sharing porn seems inappropriate (and a bit juvenile.)
(And ya there are a lot of other underlying issues to the question than I put but I'm not really comfortable listing all that right now. But my perception of porn is simlar to these two articles.)
Yes (Score:2)
Yes it is, especially if said best friend knows that the wife/girlfriend/SO objects and has said as much. It's worse still if it is not discouraged at all.
Re:Yes (Score:1)
Re:Yes (Score:2)
The example in the one article of the guy pushing his GF to get implants is a perfect example of going too far with it. But I can look at a beautiful woman and appreciate her -- while still loving my wife and appreciating her as the best thing that ever happened to
Re:Yes (Score:2)
Meh. Need more sleep. Should read "On the one hand, he doesn't have to tell him you don't like it".
Cheers,
Ethelred
Re:Yes (Score:1)
I agree that one can appreciate the female form and love their romantic partner. But there's a difference between porn and art. As art is to be appreciated, porn objectifies women and debases them. And I do see a difference between erotica and porn. As erotica is the overlap of artistic sexuality.
Re:Yes (Score:2)
That's one way of diplomatically resolving it with his friend, yes. If his friend pushes the point, then he isn't much of a friend.
But there's a difference between porn and art.
True -- but of course the line between "porn" and "erotica" is a blurry one. Certainly I don't like seeing things where a human being is being degraded or treated badly -- but the trouble
Re:Yes (Score:1)
Re:Yes (Score:2)
The difference is in the lighting;-)
This may sound harsh, but if your boyfriend in his 30s is worried that telling his friend not to send pr0n will make him feel emasculated then he is probably not mature enough for you. If he is unable or unwilling to grow up then there is a very good chance that he is not going to be able to return your investment in the relationship. I know I only have half the picture from your previous JE
Re:Yes (Score:1)
And I appreciate your viewpoint, it's not too much for the poll. It's exactly what I wanted, to get various points of view to help lend some clarity to my conundrum.
Re:Yes (Score:1)
[Robbie has too many tatoos for me, but he's still cute. but dangerous.]
Re:Yes (Score:2)
Me, of course.
Why else d'ye think she married me?
Cheers,
Ethelred
Re:Yes (Score:1)
trifecta (Score:2)
-Rustin
hmmm. Let's consider that term. (Score:2)
AFAIC, if a friend of mine is doing something that inappropriate my time to response will be measured in days, at most. A real friend should be eager to stop doing something unpleasant to one of their old friends. Seems damn near tautological to me.
Unless, of course, he's just making excuses to you and actually wants his fr
Re:hmmm. Let's consider that term. (Score:1)
All these changes that he uses as an excuse at times, at how much he's changed for me. It just seems to me that the changes would have happened anyways as a process of maturing and growing up, not just because of me.
no (Score:2)
-Ab
Porn is normal, natural, and healthy (Score:2)
Don't like it? Don't look at it. But for chrissakes DON'T take it personally when HE does!!
Dr. Phil can go stick his thumb up his ass (and send me the pix!!) He's just pandering to his female audience (who *invariably* like to find reasons to get their panties all in a twist). "What's more important: The porn or the relationship?" Oh PUH-LEEEEEEZE!
Re:Porn is normal, natural, and healthy (Score:2)
Is it that your SO *likes* looking at porn but knows that you disapprove, and doesn't want to hurt your feelings, but doesn't want to say anything to his friend?
Or is it that your SO *himself* doesn't like the stuff (regardless of your feelings), but doesn't want to admit it to his friend?
I think it's an important distinction.
Pix
Re:Porn is normal, natural, and healthy (Score:1)
Re:Porn is normal, natural, and healthy (Score:1)
I agree that porn can bring two poeple closer together by helping them explore fantasies and whatnot. The problem arises when it interferes with the sexual intimacy in the relationship. Which in my case it has. Porn is an easy fix, real sexual intimacy is more complex. The problem lies in that moreso than me thinking the majority of porn is stupid.
What's more important: The porn or the relationship?
In my case this is true. When viewing porn has negativly affect
Intent not just action (Score:2)
Re:Intent not just action (Score:1)