tuxette's Journal: on talking to teens about sex...

"I grew up being told about the 'birds and the bees', and I'm sorry, but how does a bird f*** a bee?"

"I was giving a talk at a school in the Cape Flats a few years back, and mentioned something about 'oral sex'. Afterwards, two boys came up to me and asked, 'Is oral sex when you and the girl talk like you are having sex?'."

After Uys explained oral sex to the boys, they replied, "Ah, why didn't you just say blow-job?"

*doh*

Very simple, really...

our sex talks

[sparky4]

have always been point blank on the technicalities, boys should respect girls( brother and nephew got this talk), and girls should not believe anything a boy says if it will lead to sex.

Dad told my sister's and I: (1) if you can't wait until you are married there is no excuse for getting pregnant with all of the options available (2) only do it if We want to, not because he wants it (3) never do it in the backseat of a car, that is cheap. We were 11, 12, and 13 years old at the time and already knew t

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[IamBMETammy]

In a weird way your dad's talked nicely covered the need to use protection and respect yourself.

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[Ethelred Unraed]

Heh. The thought occurred to me that we men spend all our lives trying to talk women into sex, until we produce some l'il women, then we try to talk them out of it. :-)

Cheers,

Ethelred

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[TechnoLust]

Yeah, I was talking to Patrick about when Sydney starts dating and he said, "Well, at least between the 2 of us, we know all the tricks, so we can pre-warn her!"

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[sparky4]

our parents raised us to be independent and to respect ourselves, the sex talk just gave specifics for that topic.

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[tuxette]

That's good advice, though now I'd add the thing about not getting any diseases either...

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[sparky4]

sent my nephew a link to a site about STDs, done by teens for teens, that was very to the point and had pictures.

The Key Elements...

[eno2001]

...to pass along to teens come down to these:

1. Avoid disease
2. Avoid pregnancy
3. Learn how to have more fun with it through variations and technique
4. Don't pay attention to what the mainstream media/culture says about it as most of it is rubbish
5. Sex does not equal love, love does not equal sex. They can both be mutually exclusive and there's nothing wrong with that.
6. Sexual freedom and pleasure is for everyone regardless of their gender or preference
7. Avoid disease
8. Avoid pregnancy

Not surprising

[jawtheshark]

While not directly to do with sex: when I was still a teacher, you often got blank stares by using (what I consider) basic French words (lessons had to be in French). I didn't think much of it, until one day, some guy dared to raise his finger and as me for the meaning of such a word. Then it dawned to me: they don't understand me because they don't know enough of the language!

"Oral" would nicely fit into that category of words.