I don't know where you got your knowledge about EV's but it is plain wrong.
Yes EV's are a little heavier so they have some more tire wear, especially if you use bad tires on them.
BUT, EV's rarely use their physical brakes (they regen brake) and no emissions from a tailpipe.
They massive reduce the tiny particle emissions compared to an ICE, let alone compared to a diesel car.
And that is not even taking in account that an EV takes about 1/3 of the energy required to move compared to an ICE car.
I agree though that you yanks have a serious car addiction and really need to make better public transport and walk-able cities.