We can do a lot to encourage girls as they are growing up, and to remove some of the gendered put-downs like describing them as "bossy" when we say boys who do the exact same thing are leaders.
No we don't. A kid who orders the other kids what to do and how to play is called bossy no matter what gender. A kid who ask the other kids what they want to do and lets everyone get involved with the game is a leader. These are two very different behaviours.