I take a non stimulant medication. It works fine with none of those side effects. In fact I now have fewer of the symptoms you have listed, except loss of appetite. I've lost thirty pounds and no longer seek comfort in food as I once did. Life changing for me. I didn't start taking it until a few years ago and everyday I seem to discover something that I've missed my entire life because of anxiety and volatility. I quit smoking pot. I have drank alcohol three times in five years. I used to drink weekly. I smoked pot daily. So the drugs work. As long as you accept part of it has to include changing your habits and understanding what ADHD does to your thought processes.