I hear the anger in your voice, I can only imagine at what drives that, but I think an understanding of how a business works is missing from your stance here.
"without bias" I think everyone can agree to, excepting the ISPs
"without throttles, and without caps" is a fever dream. The cost of providing service to meet such a bar would cause a rate shift that would drive us all off the net. You think a $19 per month user should expect petabit throughput and unlimited usage no matter what?
"if, you, a provider faces congestion issues, it's your own fucking fault for overselling your resources too much." This is exactly what you are demanding they do. Your yardstick of success is unattainable. If they improved their infrastructure by a factor of 10 they could still never meet your expectation.