So, what's your proposal to drag Islam from the Middle Ages all the way to the 21st century?
Easy, here it is:
1. stop bombing the living shit out of them
2. stop invading random countries to pump their oil
3. stop assassinating local leaders we don't like
4. don't install puppet governments in place of assassinated leaders we didn't like.
Path to stability needs to be.... stable. I mean if you are out to bomb them then also please occupy, name them your colony and be responsible for what happens over the next few decades, rather than retreating and letting local warlords slug it off for dominance circa 1269.