I have also seen that there are many Asian women dating or married to software engineers, but I think it would be a mistake to believe that they all a) were born and raised in Asia, b) have a past history of experiencing patriarchal abuse or discrimination, or c) are involved with their partners only or primarily because of the kindness, dependability, and genuine interest that their partners show in them as contrasted with their previous partners (or other role models they've seen via the media, relatives and friends, etc.).

I think it is true that certain Asian cultures historically have not promoted gender equality as much as they should or could have (ahem, Korea and Japan), but this is also true of many other cultures, and I'm not sure if you'd be willing to make the same generalization about, say, Latino women dating Americans (machismo is huge in many Latin American countries). It's not all Asian countries, though - Mao was pretty explicit about "women holding up half the sky" during his reign, and actually in Shanghai there's a stereotype where boyfriends are nice and compliant creatures who are tyrannized by their demanding girlfriends. I have dated Chinese or part-Chinese guys and found them to be very respectful, dependable, genuinely interested in me, employed, kind, etc. By the way, I am ethnically Korean but born and raised in the US.

I think if you asked the Asian women married to your company's IT techs why they are married to them, you might find answers that deal a little more directly with the specific personality fit of each couple rather than a baseline of being kind, dependable, genuinely interested in them, and employed. Asian cultures do tend to glorify education and STEM disciplines especially, which may be the cultural factor you're looking for since engineers have that in spades, but I think it still boils down to personality fit.

It's true - I can't cook, except for very narrow instances. But it doesn't matter for him, because he works at Google and they have awesome free food there almost all the time anyway.

I am not a pancake! I am at least French toast. French toast is prettier and, in my opinion, much tastier and more versatile. You can make French toast with many different kinds of bread, but you can't really do much to pancake batter except stick random fruits and toppings in it.

For my part, I started dating Kenton not because he was exotic to me, but because he understood me better than almost all of the guys I've dated before. I was a linguistics major and I have an abnormally large vocabulary and tend to use pretty complicated syntax - Kenton never seemed to be put off by that, in contrast to many guys I've known. We also have a lot of common interests, video games being one of them (I work in game development). I personally think I'm wittier, but that may be because I tend to inflate my witticism count with "that's what she said" jokes.