Technology for mortals?
"Incoming data from from multiple sources via the fast core of the Internet can sometimes clump closely together when multiple sources happen to transmit data around the same time."
More like technology for idiots.
It's simple. TCP/IP has a built-in backoff mechanism. It works wonderfully when two or three TCP (and other similar, more or less polite) streams compete for bandwidth. The mechanism is stream-based and not port-based, so when one app (one port) has 200-300 active streams, you're SoL no matter how polite those streams are. I guess one can approach the "BitTorrent corporation" with some crackpot idea about breaking TCP, but I wouldn't do it, unless you like to be laughed out of rooms.
What may work is a port-based backoff mechanism on top of the existing stream-based one, but no app vendor is going to be able to help you with that. Or get QoS configured on your router. Alternatively, just get your roommate to use BT traffic throttling. It's there for a reason.
Now can /. get back to actual nerd stuff?