I agree with your assertion that FOSS development is fundamentally a meritocracy. Those who produce good code are respected, and even so, from time to time they all have to put up with a lot of crap/hazing regardless of their gender.

However, if I understand correctly, you are saying there are few, if any, women in software development. In my experience, this is simply not true. I regularly work with female software developers in the US, China, India, and Germany.

Where I am, I haven't seen discrimination against women that prevents them from being hired, though I suppose it is very likely to happen in some places.

This article about research on the subject of women in computing fields is interesting.

Jump the shark, jumped the shark, jumped the shark ...

The phrase 'jump the shark' has itself skipped over various cartilaginous fish. I seem to hear it once a day lately.

Then it's not sexism, you can't have it both ways. If he'd preached about Jesus and offended a Buddhist girl would you call THAT sexist as well?

I assume you live in the US, in which case, you do not live in a Democracy, but a Federal Republic.