Journal TechnoLust's Journal: Lunch date: Another JE about a girl. (But not just any girl) 17
I met CR at church, many months ago. We saw each other, and I the first time I spoke to her was Easter Sunday, when I helped DL hand out the sermon notes at the door, I said hi to her and asked her name. I spoke to her again at the beginning of the summer, when she was going away on a mission trip. We talked a little bit about where she was going, but I didn't know it would be all summer. I've thought about her all summer long, but she was away, so I went on with it. She came back into town Wed night, so I looked for her at Church today. I have been praying about what to do. She is very beautiful. I'm not exaggerating when I say she's one of the most beautiful girls I've ever seen, on television and in real life. And she has such a sweet demeanor. 9 months ago I would have never approached her, I would have considered her way out of my league. (We've talked about that before, that no girl is out of any guy's league, but I wouldn't have tried.) Anyway, I really felt like I was supposed to ask her to lunch today. I had no idea what she would say, or what would happen, but I knew I was supposed to ask. As luck would have it, she ended up sitting on the row behind me. After church, I walked up to her and said, "Do you have any plans for lunch?" She looked a little surprised, and said, "No..." I said, "I would like to take you to lunch, if that's ok." She said, "Yes, but I have to take my nieces to my sister's house and drop of her car, so you'll have to follow me, is that ok?" I said yes. So I followed her to her sister's house and she dropped off the kids and I asked where she wanted to go. She wasn't sure, so I started naming places until she liked one. She said, "I don't think we've ever formally met, just crossed paths at church," so I told her my full name and we made it 'official'. We went to the restaurant and we had wonderful conversation the entire trip. She mentioned that she liked that restaurant (Mexican) because of the cheese dip. So when they took our drink order, I ordered cheese dip. She smiled and thanked me. She asked me if I was still in college. I told her no, that I had graduated college in 2000, and I was 25. She told me I looked younger and that that was a compliment. She said she was 20, but was often mistaken for 15, and she didn't like it now, but when she was 30 it would be a good thing. She salted only half the nachos, and I saw her and I said, "You can salt them all, that's the way I like them, too." So she did. When the server came back to take our orders, I realized that neither one of us had even opened a menu, we had been so engrossed in the conversation. I knew what I wanted, so I asked her if she was ready. She was, so we both ordered. (Her's had no meat in it, so she could be vegetarian.) We talked about college, and how I changed my mind about my life when I was 20. (She's a business major, but she's having doubt about that.) When the food came I prayed over it and we started eating. It was difficult to eat, because we were so busy talking. In fact, I didn't even finish half of mine, I had to have a box. She only had one burrito and she ate almost all of it. We talked about life, and I told her why I was at this church, about how others had judged me and that led into the story about my grandmother getting cancer and that was why I didn't have a hair cut for 4 years. (I've posted that in a JE or something somewhere, but if anyone doesn't know the story, post a reply and I'll try to find the link or retype it.) I also told her about my job. She kept asking about what I did, and seemed very interested. She kept saying how interesting it was, and how much I must enjoy my job. She talked about her hopes and aspirations. During this whole time, I was reading her body language. (I just took a class about how to read body language to be a more effective manager for work, even though I'm currently not actually managing anyone, they wanted me to take it.) Most of what she was doing was positive. She did rest her chin on her hand a couple of time, which is supposed to represent boredom, but she did it while she was talking, so I don't know what that means, unless she thought she might be boring me. The rest of the time, she sat forward and we looked each other in the eyes.
When the meal was over (it was almost 2 hours that we talked) I asked if she was ready to go. She said yes and I of course paid. Before we left my phone started ringing. I picked it up but didn't answer. She said, "You can get that." I said, "They can leave a voicemail and I'll call them back." (Which implies she is more important.) When I was driving her back, she was talking about not having a car or a cell phone or much money. When we arrived back at her sister's house, I gave her my business card and wrote my cell number on the back of it. I told her she could call or email me at the address on the front. She thanked me and said she had a good time. I told her I did likewise.
Overall this went great. When we were sitting there talking about our lives and how we became Christians and college and everything, I felt very connected to her. The happiness I felt then actually eclipsed the happiness the night I was making out with the girl in hottub last weekend. I didn't want it to ever end. The only problem is that she's going away, back to college. She's a little shy, and doesn't have the money to call long distance, so it will be hard to get something going long distance. I guess I can send a message through her grandmother, and maybe that will work. If it's going to work out, God will have to make it work, because it's out of my hands. I have no way to get in touch with her, other than sending message through her grandmother. I'm hoping she will email me and I can start a correspondence that way. We'll see. I'm just going to ask God for guidance... if it's meant to be, He'll make it work. If it isn't, He has someone even better waiting. I did my part. I asked her to lunch, that is all I was told to do so far. I was obedient in the first step, so I guess we'll see what happens next.
Excellent!! (Score:2)
As for how to continue things, I would encourage her to download some IM software (I like Trillian, myself -- covers all the bases) and converse with her that way. It's a surprisingly intimate means of conversation, even moreso than phone conversations in some ways (and in some ways, less, but you can work through that). If I were back in college again nursing a long-distance relationship (or exploring t
Re:Excellent!! (Score:2)
TechnoLust: Sounds like the two of you really hit it off. You've really got your dating etiquette down, which is good.
Long distance relationships *can* work. Just realize that the distance is a *very* big strain on a relationship. However, i
Re:Excellent!! (Score:2)
Re:Excellent!! (Score:2)
And if she doesn't know how to use the IM software, showing her how to use it could be one of those things he teaches her how to do!
Re:Excellent!! (Score:2)
Know that people grow and change, and, depending on the length of a relationship, you might need to find a way to grow and change together, instead of apart. With this in mind, the future could very well be what you once only dreamed of.
Hair & Compliment (Score:1)
Also, it's cool to read your stories, especially this 1. It's releiving to see normal stuff go on during a meal between 2 people, as opposed to something always physical &/or intimate.
Re:Hair & Compliment (Score:1)
I know you weren't asking me, but I'm going to answer anyway :-) I last had mine cut in 1989.
It's most of the way down my back, and if I pull
it straight, it just about touches my waist.
Currently black with a blond stripe on one side.
No
plans to cut it, but at the rate it's falling out,
who knows...
Re:Hair & Compliment (Score:1)
Have you ever thought of donating your hair to charity? I only ask out of curiosity. I don't know much about hair quality & such things, so I can't really say what it good. However, I've always wanted to k
Re:Hair & Compliment (Score:1)
No, I tend to prefer it on my head :-) I did at
one point (as a penniless student) consider selling
it to make myself a bit of cash, but found that
I could get such a derisory amount for it that
it wasn't worth it. As for drying time, that's
the one thing I miss about having short hair. I used
to vaguely rub a towel through it and call it done.
Now that it's longer, it takes about an hour to dry.
Re:Hair & Compliment (Score:2)
What I was referring to happened in college and I'll post the story in a JE sometime later and call it, "When I had long hair, but still wasn't a hippie." or something similar.
be careful (Score:1)
Re:be careful (Score:2)
Re:be careful (Score:2)
red5 will be so upset!
But seriously, you seemed to hit it off with this girl. I really hopes she gets back in touch with you.
I, unfortunately, had a similar experience, where I met a girl whom I thought was completely out of my league, absolutely gorgeous and valedictorian of her college (it's a relatively well known college too), and she asked for _my_ number, not the other way around. The unfortunate part of this was that she never called or emailled me back. Oh well, life goes on.
I didn't w
Re:be careful (Score:2)
Of course that is a pessimist "the glass is half empty and full of hemlock" viewpoint.
robi
Congrats (Score:2)
So, can I have the number of the makeout-in-the-hottub girl?
(I can't believe I'm the first to ask!)
Re:Congrats (Score:2)