1) If women perceive your "kind and friendly" behavior as "creepy," then you are not behaving "kind and friendly." You are, in fact, behaving like a "creep."
Pardon me for calling bullshit, but I know how to be polite and respectful just as my mother taught me.
The thing is, I'm not tall, dark and handsome-- I'm not tje "bad boy" type that these "rare birds" find sexy, ergo they dismiss me.
Remember, we're talking about "pretty girls," the ones who have been pampered and babied and put on pedestals all their lives. The plain-jane types are much more willing to talk to me and always assure me that I'm not behaving creepy in any way.
If you're a nice guy but not physically gorgeous and/or rich, your attention is not wanted by these women, ergo you are a "creep" for even talking to them.
This is exactly correct. I grew up an ugly duckling, then filled out in my mid twenties. The transition from 'can do no right' to 'can do no wrong' was striking.
One slight adjustment though. If she's a drama queen, talking isn't required. Being in the same place and ignoring her is enough because you're 'gross'.
While wiring under the desk in a cubicle, three women in the next row over were talking and didn't realize I was there. They were coordinating the three false sexual harassment claims they were going to (and did) make to get a male co-worker fired because they considered him unattractive and wanted him replaced with someone hotter. (HR told me to STFU when I reported that, then acted on what the women said - they were concerned with liability/lawsuit expense not truth or justice) Later one of those three women propositioned me, making a threat of a false harassment claim against me if I didn't sleep with her - and I already knew HR would back *her* up without question.