Comment: Re:Blegh (Score 1) 445
When I got married, I made a commitment, a promise, to always love her. Even if I feel tired of her. Even if she's changed... I intend to keep that promise, even if one of us changes. THAT is what mature people do.
Mature people stay in relationships with partners even if they don't love them anymore? Boy am I glad I don't consider myself mature yet.
Being able to work through difficulty and have your relationship grow in ways beyond what originally brought you together is one thing, but your promise sounds a little too close to "I'll keep being married to this person no matter what."
Why would you make a promise that has the potential to make your life and someone else's miserable? Trying "through good times and bad" is great. But if it's not working, it's not working, and you should still prepare yourself for that possibility. Lots of the couples that make up that 50% who end in divorce didn't just "throw in the towel" and were trying hard to make their marriages work. There is a line between perseverance and simply being too proud to admit it's not a storybook.