I can only offer anecdotes. Take them for what they are.
I have 2 coworkers with Teslas. A Model 3 LR (single motor), and a Model Y Performance.
They both claim, as of this minute on our group text thread, "around 40k" per set of shoes.
This is for a vehicle with 271hp, and a vehicle with 460hp. Surprising they they're even similar, but then again- the Y has 4 driven wheels, not 2. Expensive.
My Mustang does around 20k per set of shoes (rear only, fortunately)- you dual-motor people are learning what my sister did about her first AWD car :P
So far- seems like it performance a little better than my car of similar performance (my tires are sticky as hell- Toyo Proxes)
Now what I will grant you, is that my Ford Probe when I was 18 went like 80k miles on a set of tires.
Then again, it had like 110hp and weighed like 2800lbs. Aggressive motions (rapid start and stop) are what eat tires. I think Tesla drivers sometimes forget that they're driving performance cars.
EVs practically beg you for hard starts.
Cars don't use up tires like the 2500lb things we had in the 90s.
The fact is, EVs do not weigh more than teh average American vehicle. That doesn't mean they don't weigh more than teh average vehicle you yourself owned.