Thanks for your post. I think I understand your dilemma. However, I was puzzled by a couple of your points.
But Democrats don't get off the hook. They have repressed freedom of religion by banishing religion from all public places
Not sure what specific events you mean, but I think you're confusing banishment with declining to play favorites -- something the US Constitution demands of the government.
There is a time and place for everything, including displays of religiosity. It is not always appropriate to display it in public. Even Christians should understand that, if they follow the instructions Jesus gave them to pray in a room by themselves, not out in public like a show-off.
they have tried to reduce gender to a feeling
No, I don't think so. Gender is a sociocultural construction. Usually it aligns with one's biological sex, but not always. It's certainly more than a feeling.