Do you suffer from a chronic illness or pain? Do you have headaches, congestion, infections of one kind or another? Relax. All of these symptoms result from stress. You may have an injury, but your body keeps telling you that you must feel pain because it is under constant tension from your mind.
But how can you relax? There are so many things to be concerned about. How will you pay the bills this month? How will you get the things you want? How will you get a relationship with somebody that isn't based on games and deception?
When you relax, all of these daily concerns will evaporate. You will know what you should do and you will do it, because you will have no conflicts between your goals.
Conflicts are tension, plain and simple. If you have conflicting obligations, your attention is divided, you keep trying to balance what cannot in truth be balanced. Resolve your obligations to the best of your ability, give them up when they are opposed to your true goals.
Make peace with those with whom you have conflicts now, and those with whom you have had conflicts in the past. Settle your disagreements, have a conversation and listen to one another. If you have wronged someone, apologize, make whole what you have broken.
Relaxing is not a passive act. You can learn to meditate and gain a calm center, but to relax fully you must take actions to end the tensions that are otherwise present in your life.
Be honest, do not deceive for you will always fear being discovered and this will govern your state of mind. You cannot relax and be a liar at the same time. If you have practiced artfulness in your life, stop doing it now. Admit what you know to be true and be truthful thereafter.
Be considerate, for if you do an injury by negligence or intent, the effect upon your consciousness will cause you to suffer guilt, and you will not relax. If you have been inconsiderate, apologize and make peace.
Be open to other perspectives and gain an understanding of your adversaries. If you are closed to new ideas, you will fight them in your mind and this conflict will keep you from finding the peace you desire.