I'm an aircraft mechanic but most people are not, and most people would shit a cactus if they had to pay to maintain their car to aircraft instpection and maintenance standards.
Not necessarily. There would be economies of scale. There are also a lot of practices in aircraft maintenance that could be streamlined, like having central records so that every mechanic isn't responsible for basically double-checking everything every mechanic beforehand has done. It shouldn't be any more expensive than just dealer-maintaining your car over its lifetime, which is WAY cheaper than a typical aircraft maintenance regimen.
Autonomous cars and trucks will have to have a comprehensive sensor suite to warn of pending failure and in some cases disable the vehicle so it can be safely towed off for repair. A conventional auto can limp to safety using manual steering and brakes. Those systems also operate even with total loss of electrical power. They are highly reliable.
I'm sure there will need to be a differing set of standards for redundancy/etc for reliable autonomous vehicles, but I'm not convinced that it would be over-the-top. How often do cars have major electrical failures? I imagine that it happens less often than on your typical 40 year old Cessna, even if the results are worse. You could also have dual electrical systems and such, especially for critical components. The car really just needs to be able to coast to safety - this isn't a plane where no radios in IFR is a potentially deadly situation.
Since owners who are not technicians cannot competently assess system conditions, the automated systems must take away their choice and that means some control of "re-arming" the vehicles for legitimate test and diagnosis.
I do agree with this. However, in many cases the cars could also drive themselves in for PM well before they are crippled, which would be a major convenience. People would be far more likely to rent and share cars as well when they can be at your door in 2 minutes.
They will also need to be EMP hard. Not because of some apocalyptic nuclear scenario which isn't going to happen, but because otherwise they will be easy kills with primitive HERF equipment, and even more so where metal bodies give way to composites and plastics which offer no grounded shielding.
I don't buy this. It is a bit like saying that conventional cars need to be hardened against 50 cal sniper rifles, since one shot to the driver could cause a pile-up. Shooting an HERF at an autonomous vehicle is homicide. So is firing on an airliner during its takeoff roll - I'm sure the same sniper rifle would cause a lot of havoc there. The solutions to these problems don't involve systems engineering, though I'm all for reasonable levels of robustness.
Healthy components are replaced BEFORE they fail. It's very expensive.
Actually, on airliners many components are flown until failure when they aren't critical for safety and there is sufficient redundancy. This is part of what makes them more reliable than general aviation - they aren't constantly doing things like servicing all the magnetos (we had a fatal helicopter crash nearby due to improper maintenance and resulting dual engine failure a number of years back).
I do get what you're saying though. If we really want vehicle safety to rise to the level of flight safety, then you can't have people doing their own oil changes without the equivalent of an A&P.